Making the decision to depledge

[DubaiSis]

Also, it COULD be that as a pledge you have all the rules crammed down your throat and you're scared to death, only to find out there's a sizable group of complete ho-bags, drunkards, slobs, whatever, who are not spending one bit of time worrying about the rules that are making you actually consider quitting. You might have an overly zealous pledge trainer who is all about the rules and forgetting about the fun.

Regarding the religion thing, I can definitely feel your pain. While I was in college I still considered myself Catholic, but now as an adult I really consider myself agnostic (believe there is a god of some sort, not a fan of organized religion). This is something that people of strong faith REALLY can't wrap their mind around. Moving back to the United States after 3 years away I really felt the weight of how much religion controls all aspects of so many American's lives. But here's the thing - dropping out of the sorority probably isn't going to diminish that. Likely you're going to feel that in all aspects of college and social life in the south. Crap, I live in Southern California and I don't think a day goes by that I don't have some element of religion rear its ugly head at me. On that ground, unless they are harassing you about going to bible study, I'd try to let it go. Because it's such a huge chapter, they're still getting to know you. As they do, they'll stop bringing it up. They don't know they have moved from friendly to boring to oh my god shut up about it already! And with initiation around the corner, fair warning: there WILL be a religious aspect to your initiation. There are only 2 sororities that are truly secular, and I don't think either of them are particularly big in the south. The ritual hasn't changed in 100 years. You just have to bite down and get through it. HOWEVER, if that's going to be a big problem, address it with your pledge trainer, big, president, someone. They can't tell you exactly what's going to happen during initiation but they can probably give you enough clues to make you comfortable. Or maybe your Mom will cheat and share so as to make you more comfortable. That's between you and her. I'm not saying she should.

And on the huge chapter issue and not feeling like you've clicked, you have to give that time. It sounds like you've actually done pretty well making connections. It always seems like everyone is way more connected to each other than you are. Do you know that all 4 members of the Beatles wanted to quit at one point or another because they thought the other 3 were such good friends and he was the odd man out? Even Paul. HA!