University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013

[Hearttoheart]

Let me rephrase: When they told her they expected her to drink they were basically saying "we know your underage, but we don't expect you to be perfect and all goodie-goodie. We certainly weren't. Sororities will look the other way as long as you keep it classy and not sloppy." At no time was she told that if she didn't drink that she would be cut!!!!

Alumnae were certainly not advising her to drink! And she was sent off with strict advice from mom to behave herself. Daughter decided to participate all on her own, thinking "When in Rome..."

I just didn't realize that being seen drinking is reason enough to cut her from recruitment. Back to my original question, is drinking and socializing helpful or harmful for a successful recruitment. You ladies have answered my questions enough that I am now worried for my daughter!

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Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

I just didn't realize that being seen drinking is reason enough to cut her from recruitment. Back to my original question, is drinking and socializing helpful or harmful for a successful recruitment. You ladies have answered my questions enough that I am now worried for my daughter!

The problem is that the interpretation can vary from active to active. What one can see as a little drinking and socializing, another can decide that she is an put of control party girl. A lot of recruitment is based on quick decisions about a PNM. This can be really difficult when alcohol is involved because it impares both sides and decision making. Not to mention boy drama.

What's done is done and that won't change. As for fall... That's a tough call. Recruitment begins a month after school starts. It's hard to say don't go out and party because, well, she's a freshman in college and that's how a lot of roommate/bonding happens. It is often part of the college experience. On the other hand, it's only a month and its not like there aren't other things to do for fun. There are members in every org who dont go out and drink. I'd be tempted to play it safe and not go out to party. I'd get involved on campus right away and make an impression/socialize that way instead of risk being seen as a party girl or flirt with someone's boyfriend.