My boyfriend joined a frat and has become so mean; help!!!

[GammaGirl1908]

I would say DTMFA, but he's already broken up with you. Take him at his word and do not expect him to come back.

If I have learned anything in my life, it's to believe people when they show you who they are. He's showing you that he doesn't want to be with you. Do you really want to be waiting around for someone who is trying -- half-heartedly at that -- to keep you as his backup? I don't know about you, but I was not put on this planet to be anyone's second choice.

Sometimes it's hard to accept, but this relationship has changed and no longer fits your needs. Wishing for what you used to have (pre-fraternity) isn't productive. Unfortunately, it sounds like his priorities have changed, and you are no longer one of them. It sucks, but better to find out sooner rather than later.

Go find someone who will *continue* to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, not someone who just used to do so.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by GammaGirl1908

I would say DTMFA, but he's already broken up with you. Take him at his word and do not expect him to come back.

May I edit this to say "...do not ALLOW him to come back." It is like taking that sour milk out of the fridge, hoping that it tastes good again.

We know how this feels... I bet most of us have been through it. Turn to your sisters for your next pep talk, when Loser Boy gets lonely and tries to turn you into his "late date."

[KillarneyRose]

Sweetie, you are too good for him. Someone who embraces every bad stereotype of fraternity life PLUS wants to control you? No thank you!

Be happy that he's not your boyfriend any longer and cut all ties with him. It'll be hard at first, but I think you'll be happy to be rid of him

[AlphaFrog]

If this were YA lit, I'd say he was turning into a vamp/werewolf/whatever's hot right now and he's going through his moody "I'm staying away for her own good phase".

But it's not. It's real life, and you can't play the stupid girl that makes all the wrong choices, yet everyone loves her and she wins at life in the end. You need to make smart choices for yourself, and take to heart what the women here have been saying.

And I obviously need to quit reading so much YA lit. After I finish this book....

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

Sweetie, you are too good for him. Someone who embraces every bad stereotype of fraternity life PLUS wants to control you? No thank you!

Be happy that he's not your boyfriend any longer and cut all ties with him. It'll be hard at first, but I think you'll be happy to be rid of him

Amen!

This is what you have your sorority sisters for, support!