Rushing a second time?

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Quoted from Tapuz: "As I later found out, my favorite Rho was actually a member of my top sorority, and she expressed her deepest regrets, admitting that she thought I was the perfect fit for her sorority".

quoted from ASTalumna06:"The Rho Gammas told you to rush again in the fall: Keep in mind, they probably say this to every girl who didn't receive a bid. And while that may have been how some sisters got into sororities in the fall, that doesn't mean they were invited to their top choice, and that doesn't mean that some of the girls who were told to rush again ended up bidless once more.

You messaged the presidents, and they responded by telling you to rush again in the fall: Read above. Also, since you messaged them (and possibly never met them during recruitment), they might not even remember/know who you are. Or maybe they do, and they're just trying to be nice. I mean, what response would you expect? "No, you shouldn't come back out for recruitment. You'll never get a bid." That's not likely to happen.. anywhere."


I also wanted to emphasize these quotes. It would be a very cruel person who would tell someone "No, you should not rush again. It will be a waste of your time. You won't get a bid." Nor would a Rho Gamma say,"You are really not Gamma Gamma Gamma material-that is why my sisters dropped you before prefs." That too would be cruel. Those were kind responses to soothe the disappointment you experienced when the only choice in your eyes did not invite you back. I point this out not to be mean, but to help you see that you are still looking at this experience with rose colored glasses, i.e., you are hearing only what you want to hear. I don't want to make you paranoid, or feel bad, but I do hope that you can assess the situation more realistically in a few weeks.

I hope that you will give fall rush a try, if you can truly go in with the attitude that you could be happy in any of the chapters (because with the right attitude, you can!). Heed the advice that the other GC'ers have given you.