Rushing a second time?

[tapuz]

Thanks for all your comments. I guess I just felt really strongly about one of the sororities that really ended up appealing to me. I had done my research about various sororities in advance, and had had that one in mind, but agreed to keep an open mind to all of the sororities when I met them.

Even with that open mind, the one sorority that I had read about earlier really made me feel comfortable like none of the others. Maybe I am a little biased, I don't know, but all I know is that after every party with them, I'd come out smiling without realizing it, and think about how great the girls in that sorority were for the rest of the day. That must mean something?

I guess I just thought at compared to the other sororities, that one in specific had the most girls that i felt were like me, humour wise, interest wise, etc.

I'm still keeping my options open for next year and I'm not going go specifically for only this sorority again as I've decided, because that's irrational, but I definitely don't think that trying again will hurt. All of the sisters I've talked to from there even after bidding have been so nice to me and seem to genuinely like me, so it wouldn't hurt to try again?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by tapuz

Thanks for all your comments. I guess I just felt really strongly about one of the sororities that really ended up appealing to me. I had done my research about various sororities in advance, and had had that one in mind, but agreed to keep an open mind to all of the sororities when I met them.

Even with that open mind, the one sorority that I had read about earlier really made me feel comfortable like none of the others. Maybe I am a little biased, I don't know, but all I know is that after every party with them, I'd come out smiling without realizing it, and think about how great the girls in that sorority were for the rest of the day. That must mean something?

I guess I just thought at compared to the other sororities, that one in specific had the most girls that i felt were like me, humour wise, interest wise, etc.

I'm still keeping my options open for next year and I'm not going go specifically for only this sorority again as I've decided, because that's irrational, but I definitely don't think that trying again will hurt. All of the sisters I've talked to from there even after bidding have been so nice to me and seem to genuinely like me, so it wouldn't hurt to try again?

You aren't getting it.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by tapuz

I'm still keeping my options open for next year and I'm not going go specifically for only this sorority again as I've decided, because that's irrational, but I definitely don't think that trying again will hurt. All of the sisters I've talked to from there even after bidding have been so nice to me and seem to genuinely like me, so it wouldn't hurt to try again?

I know you probably mean that there is no harm in trying again; however, I read this and think about the emotional toll that being cut again will feel. It might be even worse if the chapters that you cut last year decide to drop you the next time around. Being cut from recruitment entirely certainly does hurt emotionally in a way that dropping out of rush does not.

[adpiucf]

It sounds more to me like you're wanting to try again for this ONE sorority. Good luck with that, hope it works out, but I'm telling you that your chances are slim to none. Yes, there's still a chance, but it is practically nonexistent.

Recruitment is like dating. You were dropped before prefs. This means they weren't "into you" as much as you were into them. Unless you manage to ingratiate yourself into this chapter this year (and not in the awkward and creepy way of a hanger-on, but as a true friend), as well as punch up your resume (make great grades, get involved on campus) and don't embarrass yourself socially, then you may have a shot. But again, that's the extreme exception to a pretty solid rule.

You had a couple hours, at most, of interaction with a few members of the entire chapter of this sorority. You were not invited to prefs meaning they did not contemplate you for a bid. Take the hint.

Good luck.