Can I get the same experience being in a sorority if I can't live in their house?

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

So, you admit you aren't at Tufts, which is the only school with guarranteed placement. You may have misunderstood these sorority members you talked to about recruitment. Go talk to the Greek Life Adviser and ask if anyone goes bidless. I guarantee you that every year a handful do. Unfortunately. Some are released by the chapters, some release themselves if they don't get the chapter they want and some don't get a bid because they don't maximize their options and list all their chapters from prefs. Only Tufts lets you go back to parties after being completely cut or makes some chapter take a girl no one wants. Did you really ask you 5 friends who know all the ins and out of recruitment about that? Lots of times girls in chapters have no idea that a couple girls that went through were completely released, so those 5 people are not who you should base your confidence around. Go in better educated and play the game bc you are coming across as very ignorant about the whole process...and most unwilling to take advice.

You are absolutely right I personally do not know every aspect of the recruitment process, I just go by what I have seen and what others in the sorority have told me. Maybe they were mistaken and missed something as you suggested, but I was going by what they told me. I only seem ignorant because I am not stressing and worried about getting in, and that is something nobody should worry about. If I don't get in, I'll move on, but I know my chances are pretty good. It isn't wrong to just want to prepare financially anyway and think about the living aspect. In all honesty would you want to be in a sorority if you didn't feel you bonded with your sisters? Bonding I would think is a very huge aspect of a sorority and that is the main thing I would like to get out of it. Being close with sisters. That was my reasoning for the "lame" question. Something most people coming into something new like this worry about, but usually never speak on.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

You are absolutely right I personally do not know every aspect of the recruitment process, I just go by what I have seen and what others in the sorority have told me. Maybe they were mistaken and missed something as you suggested, but I was going by what they told me. I only seem ignorant because I am not stressing and worried about getting in, and that is something nobody should worry about. If I don't get in, I'll move on, but I know my chances are pretty good. It isn't wrong to just want to prepare financially anyway and think about the living aspect. In all honesty would you want to be in a sorority if you didn't feel you bonded with your sisters? Bonding I would think is a very huge aspect of a sorority and that is the main thing I would like to get out of it. Being close with sisters. That was my reasoning for the "lame" question. Something most people coming into something new like this worry about, but usually never speak on.

Then your question has been answered. Some people live in, some people don't, and some chapters don't even have houses. Living with someone doesn't automatically bond you to them, and not living in a house doesn't mean that you'll never have a bond with anyone. And everyone's experience is different.

Move on.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Then your question has been answered. Some people live in, some people don't, and some chapters don't even have houses. Living with someone doesn't automatically bond you to them, and not living in a house doesn't mean that you'll never have a bond with anyone. And everyone's experience is different.

Move on.

Yes, it was answered and I've moved on since it was. Now I would like others to move on from going off topic about whether or not I get a bid since that wasn't my question. Thank you.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

Yes, it was answered and I've moved on since it was. Now I would like others to move on from going off topic about whether or not I get a bid since that wasn't my question. Thank you.

You might as well stop controlling the thread. They go where they go on GC...you have no control. The more you cry about it, the more you feed the beast.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

You might as well stop controlling the thread. They go where they go on GC...you have no control. The more you cry about it, the more you feed the beast.

My response was in response to somebody trying to control the thread. I gave the same response they gave me about "moving on" haha.I'm not crying about anything just giving them what they gave me. Thanks for your input

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Vitashort

You are absoliutely right I personally do not know every aspect of the recruitment process, I just go by what I have seen and what others in the sorority have told me. Maybe they were mistaken and missed something as you suggested, but I was going by what they told me. I only seem ignorant because I am not stressing and worried about getting in, and that is something nobody should worry about. If I don't get in, I'll move on, but I know my chances are pretty good. It isn't wrong to just want to prepare financially anyway and think about the living aspect. In all honesty would you want to be in a sorority if you didn't feel you bonded with your sisters? Bonding I would think is a very huge aspect of a sorority and that is the main think I would like to get out of it. Being close with sisters. That was my reasoning for the "lame" question. Something most people coming into something new like this worry about, but usually never speak on.

Okay. It depends, but considering that for most chapters the majority of sisters don't live in the house, you'd probably be fine. Since you would be living on campus, you could potentially spend a lot of time at the house since you would be nearby. It's always tougher for off campus sisters to stay connected, but the effort you put in makes the difference. As Titchou pointed out, the type of housing makes a huge difference.

My point of posting the previous stuff was not to tell you that you won't get in or that you should worry, but having the right mindset and an open mind going in is so important.

[Vitashort]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Okay. It depends, but considering that for most chapters the majority of sisters don't live in the house, you'd probably be fine. Since you would be living on campus, you could potentially spend a lot of time at the house since you would be nearby. It's always tougher for off campus sisters to stay connected, but the effort you put in makes the difference. As Titchou pointed out, the type of housing makes a huge difference.

My point of posting the previous stuff was not to tell you that you won't get in or that you should worry, but having the right mindset and an open mind going in is so important.

Okay, thank you and I agree