Always a PNM, never a sister.

[ellebud]

Ok...having nothing to do with the veracity of the OP's story..

Your chapter receives a rec for Betty Sue Bippie from an alum who is 50, across the country and not from you school. The alum waxes poetic about Betty Sue and what a great girl she is. You read her stuff and you can't wait to meet her....That is what the rec is for...but was the writer truthful? Please don't say that you will never trust her again..damage done (or not).

Your chapter receives a no rec for the same girl from the same woman....Or a no rec from an active in another part of the United States. You see...Betty Sue has several issues. You've read her application and she seems fine (Vice president for two years of the French Club!)..Do you believe the no rec? Or do you dismiss the active as a malevolent discontent?

Oh...and what about the company line: GIRLS TALK!!!! I mentioned in my daughter's thread about a pnm who lied and didn't receive a bid. It was the straw that broke her recruitment...Does the adage the Row only talks (or doesn't) to suit your criteria at the moment.

And as for Wary, it wasn't just that the mom kept talking. Members were banned for going after the kid. And it wasn't because the pnm did anything, her mother did. A

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That's exactly what I mean. People seem to actually be believing that ONE PERSON writing ONE LETTER can influence a whole Greek system with no other backup.

We found out after the fact of pledging one young woman that her cousin in another chapter (they were both locals) had essentially blackballed her. Did this young woman turn out to be a stellar sister? In a word, no. But even if we'd known beforehand about what her cousin did, I doubt very much that it would have made us reject her out of hand with no further discussion. Second look, yes, cut immediately, no.

I'm aware of a similar situation where all the other chapters had cut one young lady except the chapter I was assisting. Other groups were shocked she was still on anybody's list and the Panhellenic President called our president to say "Do you know that _____ is heavily into drugs and everybody else has dropped her because she's out of control?" The women in the chapter did do a little more research, found it to be true and dropped her from their next invite list. They were grateful for the heads up. That's the type of behavior I could see leading to a "letter" that would result in something like that.

[arrowlady]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I'm aware of a similar situation where all the other chapters had cut one young lady except the chapter I was assisting. Other groups were shocked she was still on anybody's list and the Panhellenic President called our president to say "Do you know that _____ is heavily into drugs and everybody else has dropped her because she's out of control?" The women in the chapter did do a little more research, found it to be true and dropped her from their next invite list. They were grateful for the heads up. That's the type of behavior I could see leading to a "letter" that would result in something like that.

If a chapter has done some research then I can understand listening to a letter. But it is a little scary to me that some of these chapters would just listen to the word of some random girl and base a decision on just what someone said..

[carnation]

Yep. Something's not adding up.