Always a PNM, never a sister.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

That must vary from school to school because I am certain the school where I advised the actives are well aware of this process.

I have certainly understood the initial reluctance to believe The OP's story, but after reading all of this, I do believe it. Even at a large SEC school rumors, trash talking, vengeance, etc takes place and the info spreads up and down the street. Heck, rush operates under the guise of hearsay - "i hear she wants to be a xyz, we shoukd release her" so this situation is very plausible.

Each chapter may have a different way to handle the negative PNM info they receive - possibly a written complaint is filed? Don't know. And, possibly in this case there is some kernel of truth in the letter. Don't know.

But, I , like Ellebud, do believe it can happen. With all of the craziness of rush - I believe anything can happen. I have seen some if it, and it isn't all sisterhood and sunshine.

And I agree with 28 stgreek. These girls TALK. The drama of voting sessions is often leaked.

Okay, I think that maybe we are arguing apples and oranges. I think that IF THE OP DID SOMETHING HORRIBLE it makes sense that word got around and she was released from every chapter. I have a much harder time believing that the OP did not do something horrible and one woman's subjective opinion held sway in six chapters.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Okay, I think that maybe we are arguing apples and oranges. I think that IF THE OP DID SOMETHING HORRIBLE it makes sense that word got around and she was released from every chapter. I have a much harder time believing that the OP did not do something horrible and one woman's subjective opinion held sway in six chapters.

I'm with you on this. Frankly, if I got a letter from a girl I'd never met in a chapter I didn't particularly like saying that a PNM had done something awful (trashed the sister's room, stolen something, etc.), I would absolutely consider that. If it were something like, "Polly PNM doesn't hold up the values of sisterhood," I'd throw it in the trash and laugh. I'm inclined to believe this story is true, but that some MAJOR details of what went down to incite the letter have been omitted.

[MaggieXi]

This story is flawed - whether the poster is a troll or there are various facts missing or things are inflated. I come from a campus that had a smaller greek population when I was an undergrad. Most of the sorority women knew and had friends in other groups. If someone was released early on by the majority of groups it was because all the groups believed that the PNM was undesirable for whatever reason (valid reasons or not).

My guess is that this PNM did something that in the eyes of her DZ roomate/hallmate/suitemate was inappropriate. The roomate/hallmate/suitemant shared the story with her chapter and her friends in other chapters prior to recruitment. Rumors spread and probably were blown out of proportion. I'm having a hard time believing that there was a mysterious "letter" written and shared throughout the panhellenic community and to the "Greek Life Higher Ups" and kept in her greek life permanent record that prevented her from being invited back to subsequent parties.

The Panhellenic Pres ("friend") as a cover up for knowing why the PNM was really released from her chapter (but can probable speculate it was the same reason the other chapters released her). While she might not agree with what happened, she can't do anything about it and she can't share membership selection info so its easier for her to hide behind the mysterious "letter".

Please excuse me if my post doesn't make sense. I have a cold and am all medicine head right now

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Okay, I think that maybe we are arguing apples and oranges. I think that IF THE OP DID SOMETHING HORRIBLE it makes sense that word got around and she was released from every chapter. I have a much harder time believing that the OP did not do something horrible and one woman's subjective opinion held sway in six chapters.

That's exactly what I mean. People seem to actually be believing that ONE PERSON writing ONE LETTER can influence a whole Greek system with no other backup.

We found out after the fact of pledging one young woman that her cousin in another chapter (they were both locals) had essentially blackballed her. Did this young woman turn out to be a stellar sister? In a word, no. But even if we'd known beforehand about what her cousin did, I doubt very much that it would have made us reject her out of hand with no further discussion. Second look, yes, cut immediately, no.