Deactivation - please help! :(

[DrPhil]

I guess the OP changed her mind. What would she have done without Greekchat?

[wildcat601]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I guess the OP changed her mind. What would she have done without Greekchat?

Please stop making assumptions - I have not changed my mind. However, I appreciate the users that have taken the time to provide me with their perspectives, which will help me make a more informed decision. Because my chapter doesn't have involved alumnae, and our advisors are not the most approachable women, I value the insight GC has given me. I wouldn't have gotten these viewpoints otherwise.

It seems like most of the points have been addressed, so again I thank all of you that helped me think through this issue! I appreciate that you took the time to help a stranger; your responses have been really useful and they mean a lot.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

Please stop making assumptions - I have not changed my mind.

How unfortunate for you that you saw that as a slight.

Oh well, you are the one with the problem. GCers are way too generous.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I guess the OP changed her mind. What would she have done without Greekchat?

I dunno - while I kindof side-eyed at the level of dirty laundry that was aired here, she could have done a lot worse than she did on that, and since "nationals" and "advisers" were part of the problem, it may be helpful to get some anonymous advice from a group of people who have been or are still in some type of advisory role for their organization.

It'd be ideal if all inquiries were like this, minus the drama mama and hand-wringing (sorry, OP, but it does come off as dramatic when it really shouldn't be). Then we could get out of heli-mom and "why should they be allowed to vote on me" territory and spend more time talking about our favorite ice cream or Centaur's creepy obsession with how often other men pleasure themselves.

[wildcat601]

Originally Posted by agzg

It'd be ideal if all inquiries were like this, minus the drama mama and hand-wringing (sorry, OP, but it does come off as dramatic when it really shouldn't be).

No problem. I didn't realize I came off this way and should have taken a break in between proofreading to check my tone. Some of the criticism was a little harsh but it is something I should learn from.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

No problem. I didn't realize I came off this way and should have taken a break in between proofreading to check my tone. Some of the criticism was a little harsh but it is something I should learn from.

It's cool - on a drama scale you're about a 6 of 10, a little higher in your first post, and lower now. I was a collegiate once, too, everything was waaaaaay dramatic. You've taken criticism pretty well, though, instead of escalating. Usually the dramatic first posts escalate to about a 425 out of 10 on the drama scale.