Deactivation - please help! :(

[33girl]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

By helping with the new member, do you mean my little? Just wanted to clarify. Thank you for your response!

You said:

Originally Posted by wildcat601

This especially applies to my "little" – I love her and feel guilty for ditching her, even though I would still be around and actively help with pledge mom week and stuff.

If you terminate your membership, it would be as inappropriate for you to help her in an active fashion as it would be for you to (example) write a bill for her to submit if she was a student senator. Can you bring her dinner when she's going crazy trying to figure out a schedule for pledge mom week? Yes. Can you go decorate the house with her? No. She should have a committee or at least an assistant pledgemistress to assist her with those things. Even if the two of you are still cool, be aware that if you terminate, there will be some sisters that don't want to see you within a mile of the house - especially if they hold you in the same regard as you appear to hold many of them.

That kind of brings up another question. How DO the majority of the members think of you? Did they just elect you to positions because they thought you would do a good job, or are you genuinely popular in the chapter? I say this because it almost sounds like they have NO CLUE that you regard most of them as drama queens, fake etc. and that you've put forth a very successful "super sister" facade.

[wildcat601]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That kind of brings up another question. How DO the majority of the members think of you? Did they just elect you to positions because they thought you would do a good job, or are you genuinely popular in the chapter? I say this because it almost sounds like they have NO CLUE that you regard most of them as drama queens, fake etc. and that you've put forth a very successful "super sister" facade.

While I said there are a lot of dramatic/fake girls, I didn't say they comprised the majority. I have a handful of very good friends in the chapter, so there are maybe two handfuls of girls I don't like. The rest of the members are nice girls but I don't know them as well.

I think I'm generally liked, but I guess I can't be sure about the way in which I'm liked. Before elections several girls asked me to run for president, so whether or not that's because I'm popular or because I could do a good job, I don't know. People generally value my opinion, but I'm not sure how this relates to whether or not I stay in the chapter. If they wanted me out, they would act like they wanted me out IMHO.