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Originally Posted by DGTess
It's not "mutual" as long as a woman cannot drop a chapter during the process.
I'm not arguing for that -- way too often the one she dropped would have been the best fit for her. Still, choices have consequences.
So Rachel Rushee goes to 16 houses on day one, and gets invited back to 8. But two of those who invited her back were those she didn't want to return to, and under many (most?) Panhel rules she gives up all choice - dropped from rush - if she doesn't go back to those she didn't want.
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Well guess what, sometimes the chapters are forced (by advisors, HQs, or worst, by Greek life offices) to invite back women they really don't want to have there because their rush retention rates or numbers are low. Except for the last case, that's not Panhel's fault.
Not only that, Rachel needs to get her ish together and realize there IS a polite way of conveying to DEF and GHI that she really doesn't want to be there. The problem is, it may be out of the members' hands to do her that courtesy and release her. They can't make the other chapters like her more and invite her to their parties, which I'm sure many DEFs and GHIs would love to be able to do. Just because your numbers are low doesn't mean you are so dense as to not know when someone is unhappy or uncomfortable.
If you realize the one she's dumping may be a better fit for her, I don't understand how you can still rail against a woman being "forced" to go to parties during formal rush.
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