Questions about GPA Requirements and PNMs

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DGTess

It's not "mutual" as long as a woman cannot drop a chapter during the process.

I'm not arguing for that -- way too often the one she dropped would have been the best fit for her. Still, choices have consequences.

So Rachel Rushee goes to 16 houses on day one, and gets invited back to 8. But two of those who invited her back were those she didn't want to return to, and under many (most?) Panhel rules she gives up all choice - dropped from rush - if she doesn't go back to those she didn't want.

Well guess what, sometimes the chapters are forced (by advisors, HQs, or worst, by Greek life offices) to invite back women they really don't want to have there because their rush retention rates or numbers are low. Except for the last case, that's not Panhel's fault.

Not only that, Rachel needs to get her ish together and realize there IS a polite way of conveying to DEF and GHI that she really doesn't want to be there. The problem is, it may be out of the members' hands to do her that courtesy and release her. They can't make the other chapters like her more and invite her to their parties, which I'm sure many DEFs and GHIs would love to be able to do. Just because your numbers are low doesn't mean you are so dense as to not know when someone is unhappy or uncomfortable.

If you realize the one she's dumping may be a better fit for her, I don't understand how you can still rail against a woman being "forced" to go to parties during formal rush.

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If you realize the one she's dumping may be a better fit for her, I don't understand how you can still rail against a woman being "forced" to go to parties during formal rush.

No one's "railing." I simply stated the process is not mutual if a chapter can drop a rushee but a rushee cannot drop a chapter.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by DGTess

No one's "railing." I simply stated the process is not mutual if a chapter can drop a rushee but a rushee cannot drop a chapter.

Yes it is...she can drop them at the end. Her only possible sanction would be not being a QA since she didn't maximize her options. And she always has the right to reject any bid offered to her. So, in the final analysis, it's her choice to make. It seems you think everyone ought to have the opportunity to pledge any group. That's not realistic as one side has to initiate the invitations. And in this case, it's the GLO...

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Yes it is...she can drop them at the end. Her only possible sanction would be not being a QA since she didn't maximize her options. And she always has the right to reject any bid offered to her. So, in the final analysis, it's her choice to make. It seems you think everyone ought to have the opportunity to pledge any group. That's not realistic as one side has to initiate the invitations. And in this case, it's the GLO...

Panhellenics go to great lengths to dissuade PNMs from suiciding though. Whether it be the gentle implication that ranking all her choices increases her chances of getting her favorites to the all out "you must list all of them or the computer will drop you and you will not get a bid at all." It's sort of the equivalent of weaker chapters being forced to invite back PNMs they don't want for the sake of numbers.