Questions about GPA Requirements and PNMs

[Titchou]

What's wrong with looking at it this way. I invite people to my home. They just don't show up for parties - they're invited. So, we invite PNMs to our chapters. They "accept" or "decline" based on their rankings of us. After all, a bid is an invitation to join. We invite; they accept or decline. It is mutual - but we're the ones having the parties...so we get to say who's invited.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Titchou

What's wrong with looking at it this way.

Ask the 1990s. It's their fault. LOL.

I think it's a misguided attempt by women who have been out of college for FAR too long to attract different kinds of women than the ones who have traditionally been members and stop their orgs being tagged as the "snobby old-girl network." Not that attracting different kinds of women is misguided at all, but making them think it's going to be easy peasy lemon squeezy is..."it" being rush, or sorority membership/Greek life itself.

The plain fact of the matter is, not everyone is cut out to be Greek - some people not at certain schools, and some people not at all. But in a college culture where calling a building a "dormitory" instead of a "residence hall" apparently hurts the building's feelings, it's par for the course.

[MaryPoppins]

ROFLOL

Originally Posted by 33girl

The plain fact of the matter is, not everyone is cut out to be Greek - some people not at certain schools, and some people not at all. But in a college culture where calling a building a "dormitory" instead of a "residence hall" apparently hurts the building's feelings, it's par for the course.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Ask the 1990s. It's their fault. LOL.

I think it's a misguided attempt by women who have been out of college for FAR too long to attract different kinds of women than the ones who have traditionally been members and stop their orgs being tagged as the "snobby old-girl network." Not that attracting different kinds of women is misguided at all, but making them think it's going to be easy peasy lemon squeezy is..."it" being rush, or sorority membership/Greek life itself.

Sorry but this indicated to me that you don't like the term "mutual selection" nor RFM...

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Sorry but this indicated to me that you don't like the term "mutual selection" nor RFM...

No, I like RFM very much. Sororities who invite back women they have no intention of pledging just to say WE GOT MORE FULL PARTIES THAN ANYONE ELSE are poopyheads.

As to "mutual selection," while it is true to a point, in the same way as suicide vs. intentional single preference and rush vs. recruitment, it pretties up what is happening a little too much. Justgowithit summed it up perfectly:

Originally Posted by justgo_withit

I think the problem is that often PNMs get the impression that mutual selection = equal selection

That Seventeen article on rush from eons ago put it in a better way - i.e. letting you know that you are checking the groups out, but somehow making it clear that you were not in charge, but not making it mean. That's the kind of thing that you can't do in a "mutual selection" sound bite.