Legacy, crazy grandmother, advice please!!!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by BidMe

1. My mom stated that tri-delt does not consider grandaughters legacies, so will they consider me as "special" legacy for having 3 generations above me or will they just consider my mom?
2. My mom also said that when my sister was going through recruitment that they called her before rush to tell her about tri-delt on their campus (since shes a member from another school), do you think if I put my grandmother down they will call her? Technically I'm not a legacy through her.
3. If my grandmother does happen to call them, will they hold it against me? (Even if I try to explain anything to her, she doesn't understand how it works now).
4. Do you think I should tell me grandmother that my rush is deferred? My sister's rush was in January. So I think it would be pretty believable and maybe by the time I am done with recruitment she will find out where I got a bid.

Thanks for the advice! I am just so nervous about everything. And after hearing what happened to my sister, I am scared out of my mind.

1) Of course they will think it is cool that you could potentially be a fourth generation Tri-Delta. However, no Tri-Delta is going to reveal (and nobody else here is going to speculate on) how that may affect membership selection.

A word of warning: you should do your best not to let other chapters know this. It has the potential to work against you if they think there is no way you will go anywhere but DDD.

2) I'll let a DDD answer this, as I've never heard of such a thing.

3) See #1, but don't worry about it too much. We've all dealt with crazy alums.

4) If you want to lie to keep your grandma out of your rush (i.e. not calling you or the chapter), you could, but if your grandma uses the internet, you will be pretty easily busted, and even if she doesn't catch on until later, you could do serious damage to your relationship. Now, if you think your relationship is going down the tubes anyway, as it did for your sister, you may be willing to piss off granny to help your rush.