Legacy, crazy grandmother, advice please!!!

[BidMe]

No, I was just blabbering and making an unnecessary assumption. Like I said, I want to be a part of a group that I think fits me best. Yes, I think it would be great to be apart of a long line of tri-delts, but I don't think that should be the factor determining which sorority I belong to for the REST OF MY LIFE. I mean I feel so much pressure already and its not even summer. What if tri-delt cuts me? What if tri-delt and my other legacy cuts me? That would be so embarrassing for me. I would be like reject in my family. My sister made it to pref day at least (I know if a legacy makes it to pref they are put at the top of the bid list). Ugh this is all I can think about!

btw I'm from the South. Luckily I'm going North for school. If you have ever seen the show GCB that is my family. Yes, those people are real. Hopefully the Northern sororities have room for a little Southern twang or I'm doomed.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by BidMe

No, I was just blabbering and making an unnecessary assumption. Like I said, I want to be a part of a group that I think fits me best. Yes, I think it would be great to be apart of a long line of tri-delts, but I don't think that should be the factor determining which sorority I belong to for the REST OF MY LIFE. I mean I feel so much pressure already and its not even summer. What if tri-delt cuts me? What if tri-delt and my other legacy cuts me? That would be so embarrassing for me. I would be like reject in my family. My sister made it to pref day at least (I know if a legacy makes it to pref they are put at the top of the bid list). Ugh this is all I can think about!

btw I'm from the South. Luckily I'm going North for school. If you have ever seen the show GCB that is my family. Yes, those people are real. Hopefully the Northern sororities have room for a little Southern twang or I'm doomed.

Ah, I see. It's not like you're dead set on Tri Delt, but are worried about your family expectations.

Let me ask you this: Is your sister shunned and rejected by your entire family for not being Tri Delt? If not, chances are good that they wouldn't do that to you.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by BidMe

(I know if a legacy makes it to pref they are put at the top of the bid list).

I think that Tri Delt is one of the sororities that does not require that a chapter pledge a legacy who comes to prefs.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by BidMe

No, I was just blabbering and making an unnecessary assumption. Like I said, I want to be a part of a group that I think fits me best. Yes, I think it would be great to be apart of a long line of tri-delts, but I don't think that should be the factor determining which sorority I belong to for the REST OF MY LIFE. I mean I feel so much pressure already and its not even summer. What if tri-delt cuts me? What if tri-delt and my other legacy cuts me? That would be so embarrassing for me. I would be like reject in my family. My sister made it to pref day at least (I know if a legacy makes it to pref they are put at the top of the bid list). Ugh this is all I can think about!

btw I'm from the South. Luckily I'm going North for school. If you have ever seen the show GCB that is my family. Yes, those people are real. Hopefully the Northern sororities have room for a little Southern twang or I'm doomed.

While I think your worries are normal for both pnms and legacies, it would behoove you to try not to worry about things that will be out of your control. I know many legacies who worry that the only reason they were extended a bid is because they are legacies. Most, if not all, sororities extend one courtesy invitation to legacies after the first round parties, but if they invite you back after that, they did so because they see potential in you as a member.

Also remember, you may not like your legacy chapters when you meet them. They all may like to knit and have knitting circles every Tuesday night, and you would prefer to play tennis. You need to make your judgements during recruitment.

As to Grandma, she could ruin your chances. Writing a letter to accompany her recommendation is good-probably repeatedly phoning the chapter during rush week is not, and could potentially be harmful to you. Maybe your mother could try and explain this to her mother? If she won't, then you or your older sister could.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by BidMe

btw I'm from the South. Luckily I'm going North for school. If you have ever seen the show GCB that is my family. Yes, those people are real. Hopefully the Northern sororities have room for a little Southern twang or I'm doomed.

Ahhh, this is perfect.

Tell your grandma that your school takes away cell phones for the week of rush and if any PNMs are found to be talking with family about anything other than emergencies, or if any family contacts them or the school, they are automatically dismissed from rush. Oh, and mention that the school a few years back tried to cut total by a third and distribute all the women rushing evenly across groups, so no one group would be more "popular." She'll assume this is the "weird Northern" way of doing things and hopefully leave you and the chapter alone.

[carnation]

^^^ LOLOL!

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Ahhh, this is perfect.

Tell your grandma that your school takes away cell phones for the week of rush and if any PNMs are found to be talking with family about anything other than emergencies, or if any family contacts them or the school, they are automatically dismissed from rush. Oh, and mention that the school a few years back tried to cut total by a third and distribute all the women rushing evenly across groups, so no one group would be more "popular." She'll assume this is the "weird Northern" way of doing things and hopefully leave you and the chapter alone.

LOL

But make sure that she gets a legacy introduction form if her sorority uses one or a reference form if they don't, so that she feels like she is doing SOMETHING. You could even ask her to fill it out for you, if you don't think it'll make her too crazy or too sure that you will join HER sorority. It would make her feel included.