GreekChat.com Forums  

Go Back   GreekChat.com Forums > Greek Life
Register FAQ Community Calendar Today's Posts Search

Greek Life This forum is for various discussion topics regarding greek life. If you are posting a non-greek related message, please do so in one of the General Chat Topic forums.

» GC Stats
Members: 329,760
Threads: 115,670
Posts: 2,205,207
Welcome to our newest member, starck
» Online Users: 1,671
0 members and 1,671 guests
No Members online
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #46  
Old 11-27-2011, 12:32 AM
DeltaBetaBaby DeltaBetaBaby is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2001
Location: ILL-INI
Posts: 7,207
Send a message via AIM to DeltaBetaBaby
Quote:
Originally Posted by 33girl View Post
As far as chapters who aren't straight up with their pledges - i.e. don't tell them they're on probation and may be closed any minute - they deserve to just have everyone dump them and never speak to them again, and the national organization should be compelled to release them and let them initiate elsewhere. A national org that doesn't do that (or that allows a chapter to initiate its class when they've already made the decision to close the chapter) is full of shitheads. Sorry to be blunt, but it's the truth.
I agree with this. Everyone says stuff like "once you initiate into an NPC, you can never initiate elsewhere". I'd like to think that, at some point, there have been exceptions made, for exactly this reason.
Reply With Quote
  #47  
Old 11-27-2011, 06:02 AM
DubaiSis DubaiSis is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Back in the Heartland
Posts: 5,424
And really, how much of your ritual do you remember after your own initiation? There's so much going on, what with the cat suits and hovercrafts, that it's pretty hard to remember even the important parts. I think you wouldn't be too much of a risk of sharing secrets, accurately anyway. I would be supportive of these highly unusual circumstances but of course there would have to be a REALLY good reason.
__________________
"Traveling - It leaves you speechless, then turns you into a storyteller. ~ Ibn Battuta
Reply With Quote
  #48  
Old 11-28-2011, 11:21 AM
PiAlphaGammaFM PiAlphaGammaFM is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 40
I agree... it really wasnt the new members fault. We are only a local. but im sure my sisters would be willing to accept the new class into our sisterhood in this situation. Not that it will ever come up since we dont have any NPC orgs here and I doubt we ever will.
__________________
ΠΑΓ
to my sisters forever loyal
Reply With Quote
  #49  
Old 11-28-2011, 01:08 PM
AZTheta AZTheta is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: N 37.811092 W -107.664643
Posts: 5,317
Quote:
Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby View Post
I agree with this. Everyone says stuff like "once you initiate into an NPC, you can never initiate elsewhere". I'd like to think that, at some point, there have been exceptions made, for exactly this reason.
Quote:
Originally Posted by DubaiSis View Post
And really, how much of your ritual do you remember after your own initiation? There's so much going on, what with the cat suits and hovercrafts, that it's pretty hard to remember even the important parts. I think you wouldn't be too much of a risk of sharing secrets, accurately anyway. I would be supportive of these highly unusual circumstances but of course there would have to be a REALLY good reason.
Quote:
Originally Posted by PiAlphaGammaFM View Post
I agree... it really wasnt the new members fault. We are only a local. but im sure my sisters would be willing to accept the new class into our sisterhood in this situation. Not that it will ever come up since we dont have any NPC orgs here and I doubt we ever will.
ahhhhh...No.

Disagree, respectfully.

Some policies, there is no wiggle room. This is, IMO, one of them. If you are initiated, you are initiated. You'll be granted alumnae status if a chapter closes for low membership. For Risk Management reasons - that's another story entirely, and up to each individual GLO's policies.

I'd be willing to wager that the OP wasn't paying close attention to the chapter's status, because in my experience there is typically a LOT of talk prior to a chapter's closure. It's really hard to hide this sort of thing, people. Especially today, where it takes all of 14 seconds for something to hit the Internet and be broadcast to hell and back for anyone and everyone to read.

As for not remembering initiation, well...I have to disagree with that as well. The chapter I advise conducts a review of Initiation immediately after (within a day), as well as weekly Ritual presentations during Chapter. We often have alumnae present at the Initiation review. We do our utmost to keep Ritual at the forefront, in a positive light, as a guiding principle for chapter operations, not as a "club" or "punishment." I speak with other advisors from other chapters at my campus and they do similar activities with their new initiates.
__________________
"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity
Reply With Quote
  #50  
Old 11-28-2011, 01:38 PM
melindawarren melindawarren is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Torchwood Three
Posts: 294
Quote:
Originally Posted by AzTheta View Post
ahhhhh...No.

Disagree, respectfully.

Some policies, there is no wiggle room. This is, IMO, one of them. If you are initiated, you are initiated. You'll be granted alumnae status if a chapter closes for low membership. For Risk Management reasons - that's another story entirely, and up to each individual GLO's policies.

I'd be willing to wager that the OP wasn't paying close attention to the chapter's status, because in my experience there is typically a LOT of talk prior to a chapter's closure. It's really hard to hide this sort of thing, people. Especially today, where it takes all of 14 seconds for something to hit the Internet and be broadcast to hell and back for anyone and everyone to read.

As for not remembering initiation, well...I have to disagree with that as well. The chapter I advise conducts a review of Initiation immediately after (within a day), as well as weekly Ritual presentations during Chapter. We often have alumnae present at the Initiation review. We do our utmost to keep Ritual at the forefront, in a positive light, as a guiding principle for chapter operations, not as a "club" or "punishment." I speak with other advisors from other chapters at my campus and they do similar activities with their new initiates.
My question is, was she actually initiated? As someone pointed out, the initiation may not have been approved by a National that KNEW that the chapter was in a lot of hot water. What's to say that she actually got initiated?
__________________

MelindaWarren aka Bellatrix Lestrange
Wanna follow me on Pinterest? PM me!
"It is our choices that show who we truly are, far more than our abilities."-Albus Dumbledore
Reply With Quote
  #51  
Old 11-28-2011, 01:47 PM
AZTheta AZTheta is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: N 37.811092 W -107.664643
Posts: 5,317
^^^ no point engaging in speculation, is there? I'm responding to other peoples' posts re: NPC policy on "once initiated, never another initiation into an NPC organization".

ETA: go back and read the OP's first post in this thread. She states she was initiated, and was an active member "less than 48 hours" and has investigated other chapters of her organization that are in the state where she's currently attending school.
__________________
"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity

Last edited by AZTheta; 11-28-2011 at 01:50 PM.
Reply With Quote
  #52  
Old 11-28-2011, 05:30 PM
DrPhil DrPhil is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 14,730
Quote:
Originally Posted by AzTheta View Post
ahhhhh...No.

Disagree, respectfully.

Some policies, there is no wiggle room. This is, IMO, one of them. If you are initiated, you are initiated. You'll be granted alumnae status if a chapter closes for low membership. For Risk Management reasons - that's another story entirely, and up to each individual GLO's policies.

I'd be willing to wager that the OP wasn't paying close attention to the chapter's status, because in my experience there is typically a LOT of talk prior to a chapter's closure. It's really hard to hide this sort of thing, people. Especially today, where it takes all of 14 seconds for something to hit the Internet and be broadcast to hell and back for anyone and everyone to read.

As for not remembering initiation, well...I have to disagree with that as well. The chapter I advise conducts a review of Initiation immediately after (within a day), as well as weekly Ritual presentations during Chapter. We often have alumnae present at the Initiation review. We do our utmost to keep Ritual at the forefront, in a positive light, as a guiding principle for chapter operations, not as a "club" or "punishment." I speak with other advisors from other chapters at my campus and they do similar activities with their new initiates.
TOTAL lane swerve/

I was waiting for someone to type this. I agree with all of this 100%.

I think this may be one of the NPC topics where it can be difficult for NPCers to speak generally when this may be more about specific NPC GLOs' policies. Don't quote me on that, though. LOL.

As for not remembering ritual after initiation, perhaps I am reading this incorrectly but, I do not understand how and why someone would not remember that. It really meant something to me on that day and I still remember it almost 150 years later. Part of that memory is fueled by the fact that I have had the privilege of initiating Sorors at the collegiate and alumnae levels throughout the years. But, it wasn't an easily forgotten experience when I was initiated.

/TOTAL lane swerve

Last edited by DrPhil; 11-28-2011 at 05:34 PM.
Reply With Quote
  #53  
Old 11-28-2011, 05:56 PM
Greek_or_Geek? Greek_or_Geek? is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 364
How do you hide being on social probation from an entire pledge class during their entire pledge period?
Reply With Quote
  #54  
Old 11-28-2011, 08:06 PM
fascination fascination is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 106
If she goes through recruitment at her new school in a different state and doesn't say anything about the previous sorority experience (for the rest of her life!), who would know? It would be a hard secret to keep, however, and not exactly honest, but she really got screwed over through no fault of her own.
Reply With Quote
  #55  
Old 11-28-2011, 08:45 PM
DeltaBetaBaby DeltaBetaBaby is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2001
Location: ILL-INI
Posts: 7,207
Send a message via AIM to DeltaBetaBaby
Is the policy really about the danger of sharing ritual, though? I thought it had far more to do with membership retention and such things, at least historically. Plenty of women leave organizations, and they could just as easily tell everyone all the deep dark secrets.
Reply With Quote
  #56  
Old 11-28-2011, 08:54 PM
agzg agzg is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: but I am le tired...
Posts: 7,277
I don't think it does. I think it's to keep members from jumping ship to other NPCs. Part of the unanimous agreements.
Reply With Quote
  #57  
Old 11-28-2011, 08:55 PM
ElieM ElieM is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Australia
Posts: 423
I guess the ultimate question is whether her initiation is official at her GLO HQ or not. If it is, then she's now an alumna. If it's not, then surely she is able to pursue other membership.

I could go around and initiate anyone I like into AAB or whatever, but that doesn't actually make them officially members.
__________________
ΔKN - Be the change
Reply With Quote
  #58  
Old 11-28-2011, 08:57 PM
33girl 33girl is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2000
Location: Hotel Oceanview
Posts: 34,519
Quote:
Originally Posted by AzTheta View Post
^^^ no point engaging in speculation, is there? I'm responding to other peoples' posts re: NPC policy on "once initiated, never another initiation into an NPC organization".

ETA: go back and read the OP's first post in this thread. She states she was initiated, and was an active member "less than 48 hours" and has investigated other chapters of her organization that are in the state where she's currently attending school.
The question is, was the initiation actually approved by an HQ who was planning on closing the chapter two days after it occurred?

If so, then they are the a-holes.

If not, and the chapter held an unapproved initiation ceremony hoping to bind these women to them, or kept their status under wraps, then they are the a-holes.

Either way, the pledges are the victims in this deal.

I would request to see emails from HQ approving or not approving this initiation...time & date stamp...because she said/she said ain't gonna cut it.
__________________
It is all 33girl's fault. ~DrPhil
Reply With Quote
  #59  
Old 11-28-2011, 10:19 PM
Titchou Titchou is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Sweet Home Alabama
Posts: 4,597
OK, folks, we've got a week old thread with 4 pages of posts and the OP hasn't said a peep since her first post. What does that tell us? And, she said the only events she attended were Bid Night, Initiation and Founders Day. What the heck happened between Bid Night and Initiation??????? Just saying....
Reply With Quote
  #60  
Old 11-29-2011, 02:28 AM
melindawarren melindawarren is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Torchwood Three
Posts: 294
Quote:
Originally Posted by Titchou View Post
OK, folks, we've got a week old thread with 4 pages of posts and the OP hasn't said a peep since her first post. What does that tell us? And, she said the only events she attended were Bid Night, Initiation and Founders Day. What the heck happened between Bid Night and Initiation??????? Just saying....
A chapter on probation may not have social events? I don't know...

Also, RE: remembering ritual, I was too excited at my initiation to fully process enough of the ritual. Like, I remember some things, but I could benefit from paying better attention next time around. I was WAY too excited at my initiation!
__________________

MelindaWarren aka Bellatrix Lestrange
Wanna follow me on Pinterest? PM me!
"It is our choices that show who we truly are, far more than our abilities."-Albus Dumbledore
Reply With Quote
Reply


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Can National Shut Down a Chapter Because of it's Racial Breakdown? Achilles87 Greek Life 115 09-23-2009 04:19 AM
Alumni/ae, where is your chapter of initiation? KSUViolet06 Alumni Involvement 117 10-31-2007 11:36 AM
Two chapter shut down for hazing... strubbe Sigma Nu 6 02-19-2007 09:17 AM
What are some things your chapter does to make initiation special for new members? KSUViolet06 Greek Life 5 09-12-2004 12:29 AM
Franklin College chapter shut down Rudey Phi Delta Theta 1 07-10-2004 03:32 AM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 09:36 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions Inc.