Dating/trusting a frat boy?

[MysticCat]

Am I the only one getting a troll vibe?

PLG, if this is all for real, slow down and stop asking for advice from random people on the internet who don't know you, don't know him and don't know anything about this situation except the pieces you've provided. Talk to your real-life friends about it, instead.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by peacelovegreek

I can still back out of this, right? I mean, I've just seen one side of him. The nice, shy, sweet guy. I haven't seen him at a party or at least drunk. But even before yesterday, like during Homecoming, a lot girls would jump up and hug him. It just sucks have insecurities of a guy you're not technically dating. And am I total failure for going into his room with letters? I'm pretty sure he had an ulterior motive to do more than just kiss yesterday...

Originally Posted by peacelovegreek

Well thank you for answering the main bulk of my question!! But I guess I really just have to see for myself as to where this all goes.

Originally Posted by peacelovegreek

So I really just have to ask him to see what we are then.

Relax. Breathe. Live your life. If he calls or texts and wants to go out, and you want to go out, then do that. Personally, I wouldn't keep meeting at the house only. If he suggests coming to the house, try something like "I'm about to grab something to eat, want to come?" or some other activity that doesn't involve his room. Get to know him, make him get to know you. Breathe. Relax.

[Splash]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Relax. Breathe. Live your life. If he calls or texts and wants to go out, and you want to go out, then do that. Personally, I wouldn't keep meeting at the house only. If he suggests coming to the house, try something like "I'm about to grab something to eat, want to come?" or some other activity that doesn't involve his room. Get to know him, make him get to know you. Breathe. Relax.

Exactly. Just relax and have fun like you were doing before.

And I've seen people ask girls to be their girlfriend. I'm early-20s.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Personally, I wouldn't keep meeting at the house only. If he suggests coming to the house, try something like "I'm about to grab something to eat, want to come?" or some other activity that doesn't involve his room. Get to know him, make him get to know you. Breathe. Relax.

Agreed. If a guy was focused on me coming to his fraternity house/apartment all of the time and nothing else, combined with the fact that he keeps seeming to mention lying in bed as an activity he'd like to do, that would creep me out a little bit and lead me down the path of thinking he has other motives that may not be in my best interest...but that's just me!

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Am I the only one getting a troll vibe?

PLG, if this is all for real, slow down and stop asking for advice from random people on the internet who don't know you, don't know him and don't know anything about this situation except the pieces you've provided. Talk to your real-life friends about it, instead.

No. The first few posts were like the same person conversing with itself.

And yes, ditto the second.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by IrishLake

No. The first few posts were like the same person conversing with itself.

I had that same thought.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I had that same thought.

You weren't the only one.

>my face the entire time