Ordering high end on the first date. Is it rude or is it just me?

[knight_shadow]

I've never had a server sit there and wait for a card when I was done eating. It's always "pay whenever you're ready."

This guy sounds like a dick.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I've never had a server sit there and wait for a card when I was done eating. It's always "pay whenever you're ready."

This guy sounds like a dick.

Well I basically had mine out ready to go when he came with the bill, and then my bf said, "no, I'll pay" and searched for his card, and we were all talking and laughing with him, which is why he hung around and waited for my bf's card.

If I was the server in that instance, I'd jokingly say, "I'll give you a few minutes to decide," and walk away

I learned from working in that position, that even if my bf and I were in an all out fight about who was paying, instead of laughing and joking around, you walk away and don't get in the middle of whatever is going on between the customers.

And you NEVER make the decision about who is paying

[Tulip86]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

And you NEVER make the decision about who is paying

I do quite frequently decide who's paying... our regulars include a bunch of guys (about 30-35 y.o.) who hand me one creditcard each and I have to draw one behind my back! So funny

[honeychile]

Has anyone ever gone to a restaurant where they hand a menu with the prices to the man and one without the prices to the woman? I only went to one of those one time, and I found it more than a little offensive.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Has anyone ever gone to a restaurant where they hand a menu with the prices to the man and one without the prices to the woman? I only went to one of those one time, and I found it more than a little offensive.

If this ever happened to me, I'd be the idiot who said, "What, they don't show you the prices of ANYTHING here?!"

I keep it classy.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Has anyone ever gone to a restaurant where they hand a menu with the prices to the man and one without the prices to the woman? I only went to one of those one time, and I found it more than a little offensive.

I asked about that a few pages back too. I think that happened to me after husband #1 but before husband #2, so it was probably 1990 or 1991. I don't think that has happened since then. However, I rarely go to restaurants of that caliber anyway. I wasn't offended at the time. How long ago was the for you, honeychile?

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I asked about that a few pages back too. I think that happened to me after husband #1 but before husband #2, so it was probably 1990 or 1991. I don't think that has happened since then. However, I rarely go to restaurants of that caliber anyway. I wasn't offended at the time. How long ago was the for you, honeychile?

The whole night was offensive to me! It had to be about the same time that you encountered this, 1991-92. I was very defensive then - but I wanted to get something mid-range price and couldn't tell. (hmmm... how much that going for lately?)

33, it was the restaurant at Jennerstown Playhouse, if you've ever been.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by honeychile

The whole night was offensive to me! It had to be about the same time that you encountered this, 1991-92. I was very defensive then - but I wanted to get something mid-range price and couldn't tell. (hmmm... how much that going for lately?)

33, it was the restaurant at Jennerstown Playhouse, if you've ever been.

Green Gables? Yes, many times. Consider that being there in 1992 was like being anywhere else in 1952. Time passes sloooooooowly up here in the mountains.