Ordering high end on the first date. Is it rude or is it just me?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Tulip86

Working in quite a high-end restaurant, I always hand the bill to whoever asked for it. Handing the bill to the male just because it's assumed he's going to pay seems dated to me.

Thank you!

In your experiences, is it often the man who asks for the bill?

[Tulip86]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Thank you!

In your experiences, is it often the man who asks for the bill?

More than half of the time, but a lot of women ask for the bill too. I'd say 60/40.
But I work in The Netherlands and having lived both here and in the U.S., there's quite a different culture when it comes to dating and who pays what. I think it's more common for women to pay in The Netherlands than it is in the U.S. When on dates in the U.S. the guys I was with always insisted they pay, here they usually offer to pay, but also ask if you're comfortable with them paying.