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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
I've never picked up the bible and found any of that written there.
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I have.
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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
The family does not make the man,
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Not always, but I just prefer a man who comes from a similar background as my own.
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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
you use your brain as much as your heart to choose your mate.
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I agree, and I've said this several times before on here, so this is nothing new. I think it's important to use your brain before you let your emotions get involved, and that takes time in most cases. A lot of people let their decisions follow their emotions, when it's safer the other way around. I just think it's better to "think" first and "feel" later. It just comes down to the right choices eventually bringing the right emotions. Just like the outcome of your whole life, love is a choice, not an emotion.
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Originally Posted by honeychile
FWIW, cheerfulgreek and anyone else who cares, we discussed MOMO with our pastor/counselor during our premarital meetings. He thinks it's a good idea.
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I never said it wasn't a bad idea. Like I said before, choose someone who agrees with you.
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Originally Posted by Ch2tf
But what makes a successful marriage IYO?
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I'm sure there are several things, but since you asked for my opinion, I think compatibility, and long-term maintenance are two of them. And more likely than not, the main things.
Compatibility because if you're not walking in the same direction in life, you'll end up going separate ways, and you don't have to be living in separate homes, divorced or whatever for that to happen. I'm not saying that as being exactly alike, but having similar if not the same values is what I'm saying.
Maintenance, because a relationship needs to be maintained in order for it to continue to last/work. Christian or not. IMO, everything needs to be maintained in order for it to survive/work, whether it's your home, a business, a car, your pets, etc. You name it, it needs to be maintained.
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