Why Rejected from a Sorority?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

I have been an advisor on both small and large campuses, so I can look outside the so called "bama bubble." While a recommendation will not insure a bid,many times it will insure an invitation to the second round of parties. This poor kid did not make it past the open house round. All I said was that it might get her foot in the door a second time. You girls certainly get testy.

Actually, I was testy-ing at the "most national sororities" part.

You have no idea what "most national sororities" do unless you've somehow gotten membership selection information that a nonmember shouldn't have.

Not to mention that saying "many schools" will release women without a rec is flat out untrue. "Many schools" (as I've said) wouldn't know what a rec looks like.

I don't think this PNM was released because of recs or lack of them, because I don't think (based on what she's told us) it's that kind of school. More than likely her grades did not transfer and she was shown as ineligible. (I'm sure sneakers with dress pants didn't help either.)

[Bamarox]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Actually, I was testy-ing at the "most national sororities" part.

You have no idea what "most national sororities" do unless you've somehow gotten membership selection information that a nonmember shouldn't have.

Not to mention that saying "many schools" will release women without a rec is flat out untrue. "Many schools" (as I've said) wouldn't know what a rec looks like.

I don't think this PNM was released because of recs or lack of them, because I don't think (based on what she's told us) it's that kind of school. More than likely her grades did not transfer and she was shown as ineligible. (I'm sure sneakers with dress pants didn't help either.)

OK You are right I don't know anything about other National Sororities. I just for the life of me can't figure out why Panhellenic Groups gather in the summer and collect PNM resumes to send RECOMMENDATIONS. I guess they don't have anything better to do. Even at schools where references are not the norm, what would it hurt? I never said she was released because she did not have a rec. I said THAT AT SOME SCHOOLS that can happen.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

OK You are right I don't know anything about other National Sororities. I just for the life of me can't figure out why Panhellenic Groups gather in the summer and collect PNM resumes to send RECOMMENDATIONS.

Other than your group, you have no idea what the other 25 NPC groups do with those recommendations. Maybe they make paper hats out of them and dance around.

And again...many alumnae Panhellenic groups don't gather in the summer, collect PNM resumes, or do anything with recommendations.

[Bamarox]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Other than your group, you have no idea what the other 25 NPC groups do with those recommendations. Maybe they make paper hats out of them and dance around.

And again...many alumnae Panhellenic groups don't gather in the summer, collect PNM resumes, or do anything with recommendations.

Do you honestly think different groups don't talk. I have close friends in almost every NPC group, we all talk in the summer and write recs for each others friends. I never got the impression that after they volunteered to write a rec, that they were thrown in the garbage or that they were turned into paper hats.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

Do you honestly think different groups don't talk. I have close friends in almost every NPC group, we all talk in the summer and write recs for each others friends. I never got the impression that after they volunteered to write a rec, that they were thrown in the garbage or that they were turned into paper hats.

You just don't get it.

Don't speak for groups other than your own.

Don't make sweeping generalizations.

Don't act as though you know what groups do behind closed doors. If you do know because someone couldn't keep their mouth shut, don't be as indiscreet as they were.

Membership selection is a private process. Treat it as such.