Why Rejected from a Sorority?

[Bamarox]

It has been a long time since I was on your side of recruitment, but maybe I can help.

I don't know how competitive rush is at your school, but here goes:
Why girls are released:
1. Grades
2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf. A reference is a letter of introduction from an alumnae who knows you. It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.
3. Did you know anyone in any of the houses? Girls with friends from home are naturally going to do better than a girl who knows no one in the chapter.
4. Upperclass Status, at some schools this puts you at a disadvantage.
5. Appearance, as shallow as this sounds it does matter. Just like a job interview, people make character judgements by the way you look. Especially,if they don't know you.
It sounds like the Greek system is relatively small at your school. I would look for other ways to be involved on campus. With your grades there are honoraries, service organizations, intramural sports, as well as, common interest groups. Find someone in student affairs who can help you find a good match.
Do not let a bad rush spoil your college experience.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf.

Not true. PNMs get released by chapters for which they have recs ALL THE TIME.

Originally Posted by Bamarox

It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.

While this may be true, I don't get the sense that the OP's school is Bama-competitive. I know a woman who went through recruitment at South Carolina last year and she had recs to 8 of 10 chapters, BUT she was invited to those two chapters for which she did not have a rec for round 3. And those two chapters are considered "middle tier" chapters.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf. A reference is a letter of introduction from an alumnae who knows you. It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is just plain flat out not true. Maybe it's the case with your GLO and your school, but it is NOT true many places. A lot of people on here will see they never saw a rec in four years.

Please exit the "Bama bubble" before making assertions that are just wrong.

Originally Posted by 33girl

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is just plain flat out not true. Maybe it's the case with your GLO and your school, but it is NOT true many places. A lot of people on here will see they never saw a rec in four years.

Please exit the "Bama bubble" before making assertions that are just wrong.

+1. My chapter has never received a rec and I truly doubt receiving one for a PNM would alter any decision we made unless it was written by a woman my whole chapter knew personally/a National Council member.