Why Rejected from a Sorority?

[Libertylove]

I wasn't asking it to be fixed now was I?

Perhaps you could understand that (or maybe you didn't read thoroughly) that I got rejected from all five sororities on the first day of rushing, so I am just looking for some constructive criticism. I of course already understand that

1) You wouldn't know what the sororities, this is obvious
2) Other sororities are not allowed to talk about why they would reject me.

I am not moping, I am just wondering about reasons someone would be rejected from a sorority especially in my case when I got rejected to all five in one day.

Can anyone give me an idea on that?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Libertylove

I wasn't asking it to be fixed now was I?

Perhaps you could understand that (or maybe you didn't read thoroughly) that I got rejected from all five sororities on the first day of rushing, so I am just looking for some constructive criticism. I of course already understand that

1) You wouldn't know what the sororities, this is obvious
2) Other sororities are not allowed to talk about why they would reject me.

I am not moping, I am just wondering about reasons someone would be rejected from a sorority especially in my case when I got rejected to all five in one day.

Can anyone give me an idea on that?

Are you sure that your grades transferred to your new school? If they didn't, that would have more than likely been a reason why.

Also, I think you mean ISC, not IFC. I know there are schools that have Panhel for the nationals/NPC groups and ISC for the locals. Is that what it is?

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by Libertylove

I wasn't asking it to be fixed now was I?

Perhaps you could understand that (or maybe you didn't read thoroughly) that I got rejected from all five sororities on the first day of rushing, so I am just looking for some constructive criticism. I of course already understand that

1) You wouldn't know what the sororities, this is obvious
2) Other sororities are not allowed to talk about why they would reject me.

I am not moping, I am just wondering about reasons someone would be rejected from a sorority especially in my case when I got rejected to all five in one day.

Can anyone give me an idea on that?

After reading this post, I would wonder if attitude had something to do with it? No one can tell you why you were rejected. Period. I know it's harsh, but it's reality. Did you do something egregious a few days before rush started? We don't know those things. So we don't know. Now go out and look for other things to do on campus, get involved in other ways.

[Bamarox]

It has been a long time since I was on your side of recruitment, but maybe I can help.

I don't know how competitive rush is at your school, but here goes:
Why girls are released:
1. Grades
2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf. A reference is a letter of introduction from an alumnae who knows you. It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.
3. Did you know anyone in any of the houses? Girls with friends from home are naturally going to do better than a girl who knows no one in the chapter.
4. Upperclass Status, at some schools this puts you at a disadvantage.
5. Appearance, as shallow as this sounds it does matter. Just like a job interview, people make character judgements by the way you look. Especially,if they don't know you.
It sounds like the Greek system is relatively small at your school. I would look for other ways to be involved on campus. With your grades there are honoraries, service organizations, intramural sports, as well as, common interest groups. Find someone in student affairs who can help you find a good match.
Do not let a bad rush spoil your college experience.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf.

Not true. PNMs get released by chapters for which they have recs ALL THE TIME.

Originally Posted by Bamarox

It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.

While this may be true, I don't get the sense that the OP's school is Bama-competitive. I know a woman who went through recruitment at South Carolina last year and she had recs to 8 of 10 chapters, BUT she was invited to those two chapters for which she did not have a rec for round 3. And those two chapters are considered "middle tier" chapters.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Bamarox

2.References, I don't care what your campus said, most national sororities invite pnm's back for a second round if a reference has been written on their behalf. A reference is a letter of introduction from an alumnae who knows you. It is a formality, but at many schools PNMs are automatically released if they do not have one.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is just plain flat out not true. Maybe it's the case with your GLO and your school, but it is NOT true many places. A lot of people on here will see they never saw a rec in four years.

Please exit the "Bama bubble" before making assertions that are just wrong.

Originally Posted by 33girl

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. This is just plain flat out not true. Maybe it's the case with your GLO and your school, but it is NOT true many places. A lot of people on here will see they never saw a rec in four years.

Please exit the "Bama bubble" before making assertions that are just wrong.

+1. My chapter has never received a rec and I truly doubt receiving one for a PNM would alter any decision we made unless it was written by a woman my whole chapter knew personally/a National Council member.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Libertylove

I wasn't asking it to be fixed now was I?

Perhaps you could understand that (or maybe you didn't read thoroughly) that I got rejected from all five sororities on the first day of rushing, so I am just looking for some constructive criticism. I of course already understand that

1) You wouldn't know what the sororities, this is obvious
2) Other sororities are not allowed to talk about why they would reject me.

I am not moping, I am just wondering about reasons someone would be rejected from a sorority especially in my case when I got rejected to all five in one day.

Can anyone give me an idea on that?

WE. DON'T. KNOW.

There are million possible reasons, but we weren't there.

Perhaps your lack of ability to "get it" is part of the reason? You can ask the same question twenty ways, but if no one can answer it, you're not going to get an answer.

My suggestion is to keep up with the things that you are already doing, and make a name for yourself on campus. Greek life isn't the end-all be-all. Yes, it can be a blast, but like everything else, it's not for everyone.

For example, not everyone who wanted to join our campus newspaper as a reporter were accepted. Not only did you need impeccable writing skills and have a certain GPA, but you needed to be confident and be able to ask questions and get the answers in any situation. Some of the qualities were hard to describe - you needed a certain personality to do that kind of thing. That's about the best I can do in explaining how you can have certain qualities, but you may not be WHAT or WHO they are looking for.