Inviting a +1 to a wedding

[DubaiSis]

I've been involved in more than one family fight over just this issue. For a variety of reasons - I want a grown up wedding! - I hate Aunt Susie's kids so I'm not allowing any kids at the wedding - we can really only afford 200 people - and being raised Catholic, well let's just say we lived the stereotype. And someone was tasked with calling Aunt Susie to tell her the kids are not invited. Yes, that leads to 20 years of pleasant family holidays. I have a cousin who was not going to get married just because she didn't want to deal with Grandma's embarrassing behavior.

Weddings are cause for SO MUCH DRAMA. Mine was minimal but that's because I had my youngest sister plan virtually the whole thing and she was the one having the fights with my mother, not me.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by AGDee

You may bring a friend. It says "and Guest" not "Male significant other".

Originally Posted by 33girl

I can't think of anything more perfect. You'll probably have a better time than the sisters who have to babysit their non-PSU hubbies. Heck, if you wanted to bring a female friend, that would be fine too.

Ok, this is what I figured. I've just never known anyone to bring a friend.. Which is surprising, as I've been to a lot of weddings.

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Weddings are cause for SO MUCH DRAMA. Mine was minimal but that's because I had my youngest sister plan virtually the whole thing and she was the one having the fights with my mother, not me.

This is why the thought of having my own wedding one day does not appeal to me at all. I'm either having a small wedding, or if my future husband prefers a big one, I'm having someone else plan it. It's too much work, and there are way too many differing opinions from a multitude of people.

One of my friends keeps complaining to me about this wedding she's in because she's one of three maids of honor. She says that all of the weight of planning and helping the bride is going to fall on the shoulders of two of them (and they're extremely good friends, btw), and the other isn't even going to be involved, and she doesn't know why the bride even asked the third girl to be in the wedding. Well, it's one of the bride's sorority sisters, and she lives in Louisianna, while the rest of them are in NH. I've basically told her to get over it, call the third MoH, tell her that you're splitting the cost of whatever MoHs spend three ways, plan whatever you need to with the other MoH and the bride (her 2 best friends), and be happy that she at least has one other person to help her out.

People need to learn to shut up, put a smile on their face, and realize that it's not their big day!

[agzg]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

This is why the thought of having my own wedding one day does not appeal to me at all. I'm either having a small wedding, or if my future husband prefers a big one, I'm having someone else plan it. It's too much work, and there are way too many differing opinions from a multitude of people.

Live-in and I do disagree on our "dream wedding." Luckily for me, I think finances will play a pretty huge part (he's positive my dad will want to fund the wedding, I'm positive he won't, I'm positive his mom will TRY to fund the wedding, we're both positive we'll try to limit that lest it become HER wedding), so we'll probably end up having my dream wedding rather than his.

I'm warming up to the idea of about 70 people (our families are ever-expanding, especially now that my dad is getting married and his fiancee has 2 kids and 5 grandkids, 4 of which will be adults or nearly adults by the time we get married), but 30 is my ideal. Actually, 10 was my ideal before (his parents and their significant others, brother, brother's gf, my dad, brother, SIL, niece) but I'm warming up to it. He'd love to have a HUGE wedding with 200 if he could, though.

We're still a little ways off. I think we're aiming for being married around 30, just so that we're well on our way in both of our careers prior to planning to have children. Of course, things don't necessarily have a way of following our perceived timeline!