In-law venting thread

[agzg]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

Okay, I got one. I just learned this yesterday afternoon while randomly going through Facebook. Now, I will preface this by saying that I know Facebook is kinda stupid, but my SIL has apparently de-friended me within the past month or so.

What pisses me off is that she is an adult. She was in my wedding (more as a favor to my husband and his brother than anything). Whenever we DO see each other (always in their hometown, because GOD FORBID she and her husband drive the 2 hours to come see us, which they have never done), we hang out a bit while my husband and his brother hang out. She has my husband's parents wrapped around her little finger because she is a high-school dropout who refuses to get a job even though they always struggle with finances (allowing her to spend all of her time at my in-laws' house) that has given them their only grandchild and lives 3 miles away from them, and so she is over all of the time and is basically BFFs with my husband's mother. They can talk shit about me, I don't care.

I don't need to be her friend, that's fine. But what I do expect is for her to be a fucking ADULT and at least tell me why she is angered or offended by me. After all, it's not like we can just completely cut off contact. Of course I will see her at some point. My husband refuses to say anything to his brother, because he never takes my side in anything dealing with his family (and since she has been married ever since she was SIXTEEN to my BIL, she has been his "family" for about 10 years). I really want to send her a message, but I'm afraid that anything I say will just fan the flames. Any advice????

Resist the urge. I don't know your SIL so I can't say for sure, but I change my friendslist on facebook all the time, and it's not a source of drama for me. And if she does have an issue, unless you caused it, it's hers, not yours, and if you did cause it, you'll find out eventually. It might not be anything you want to change/apologize for.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by agzg

Resist the urge. I don't know your SIL so I can't say for sure, but I change my friendslist on facebook all the time, and it's not a source of drama for me. And if she does have an issue, unless you caused it, it's hers, not yours, and if you did cause it, you'll find out eventually. It might not be anything you want to change/apologize for.

Completely agree. If your husband won't deal with what is essentially his family issue, ignore it. It's not worth your time or energy. She's probably jealous of you.