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Originally Posted by agzg
Live-in's mom has made comments to the effect of being there for all of that type of stuff. She once said "I can't wait to take you wedding dress shopping, you know, since your mom won't be there."
While I appreciate that she loves me and wants me and Live-in to be married and happy together (and I really do appreciate it - she is not short on love or annoying habits), pairing it with a "since your mom won't be there" was like punching me in the gut. That was a few years ago now, and I'm hoping that she's picked up on the fact that mentioning my mom or things we can do together since my mom isn't around is something that makes me shut down completely.
I worry though, that she'll say something like "since your mom won't be there" in regard to labor/babies. I might have to pull out with "the only non-doctor/nurse in the room I want seeing my vulva is Live-in, since he had to see it to get me into this mess anyway."
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I realize you're in a situation with a potential MIL, but I am so thankful my step-father has never acted that way since my father died. When I was getting married my grandfather was going to take me down the aisle, and since that didn't happen he is deceased as well. If I ever decided to get married I'd just walk myself down the aisle since I don't see that I am someone or thing to be given to a man, or I'd do it up Norwegian style and make it a big ol' Soul Train Line to the church, down the aisle, back up the aisle, out of the church, and then to the reception. I'm serious about a Soul Train Line though, even if I do it with Norwegian fiddlers or have something soul foul and funky playing, there will be a Soul Train Line at some point.
I'm still squicked out on the whole idea of pregnancy, like this parasitic creature siphoning off me, the changes to my body, how disgusting the normal and natural act of childbirth is, that I don't want anyone who isn't being paid by my insurance plan going below or seeing anything below my waist. If I really don't want to see what's going on down there, no one who isn't a medical professional is going to be scoping it out either. My fellas were relieved when i said that, and there has been agreement that no one wants to spoil the magic so to speak. My own mother and I often clash, so I think if it wasn't my partner in the room, or there could be two people, it'd definitely be either/or my eldest sister (biological) or the youngest of my older sisters (step) since they've been through it and get me better than my mother does.
For now I'm just sticking to be the single mother of two very active 2 year old cats but I seriously plan to be a foster parent for LGBTQI kids once I get settled after my second Masters and have purchased a home.
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