Are you a PNM wondering what you can do to "improve your chances" at recruitment?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by honeychile

I am genuinely sorry that you feel that way.

It is flat out ridiculous to connect thank you notes with being a "better" person and then some how associating it with the success of one's recruitment.

You may believe it makes them a more polite person, shows good manners or what have you, but you're reaching really really far to claim 'better' person or that inherently they're more interesting as a PNM and have better chances at recruitment.

Unless you somehow have information on the respective results of PNMs who write thank you notes and those who don't instead of just wishful thinking.

I'm not arguing that it's not generally polite to send a thank you note, but it has jack to do with a PNM's recruitment and pretending otherwise is the only problem people have with the thread.

/and save your pity.

[AnchorAlumna]

A catfight over thank-you notes?
You people are really bored!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

A catfight over thank-you notes?
You people are really bored!

Ah, but thank you for taking time out of your busy busy day to comment on it! I'm so glad you have more entertaining things to do with your time.

[VandalSquirrel]

The majority of women I write recs for are first generation Greek and/or first generation college students. I work very hard to give those women the advantages other women were born with or have never had to think about and try to even the playing field. I would never do anything to hurt these women in recruitment or hold anything against them for not receiving a thank you note. Not that all manners and etiquette expectations and experience are based on social class, but since a lot are it would be quite unmannerly and poor etiquette to take it out on these women without helping and educating them about the adult world they are entering.

I would also be thrilled if I never had to see another post on GC about manners and/or etiquette where it is implied the South has some monopoly, higher expectations, or exceeds any other region of the USA. I know those of you from the South aren't directly or intentionally insulting everyone else in the country, but in the end reading it over and over again is tiresome and insulting to me.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

The majority of women I write recs for are first generation Greek and/or first generation college students. I work very hard to give those women the advantages other women were born with or have never had to think about and try to even the playing field. I would never do anything to hurt these women in recruitment or hold anything against them for not receiving a thank you note. Not that all manners and etiquette expectations and experience are based on social class, but since a lot are it would be quite unmannerly and poor etiquette to take it out on these women without helping and educating them about the adult world they are entering.

I would also be thrilled if I never had to see another post on GC about manners and/or etiquette where it is implied the South has some monopoly, higher expectations, or exceeds any other region of the USA. I know those of you from the South aren't directly or intentionally insulting everyone else in the country, but in the end reading it over and over again is tiresome and insulting to me.

Yes, yes, a million times yes. Although my upbringing was filled with a lot of etiquette lessons--formal and unformal--the sorority rec thank you was something I was completely unaware of. I submitted my bio and photos to the local Panhel but I had no idea what they were going to do with them. It wasn't until later that I learned that they had written recs. I didn't grow up with an NPC family, nor did I have a ton of friends who'd give me the deets. I sent plenty of thank-you notes and cards to teachers who wrote recs, and I sent thank-you notes to my teachers after the AP/IB exam results came in, but I still have NO IDEA who wrote my recs for Alpha Chi and Theta. Clearly that didn't impact anything, as I got recs to both groups. I did get a good number of thank-you notes as an alum because I called the women before I wrote their recs.

There is entirely too much Southern chauvinism on GC when it comes to matters of etiquette--this comes from someone who grew up in the South--but I have to say it's gotten way better than it was about 5 years ago!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I would also be thrilled if I never had to see another post on GC about manners and/or etiquette where it is implied the South has some monopoly, higher expectations, or exceeds any other region of the USA. I know those of you from the South aren't directly or intentionally insulting everyone else in the country, but in the end reading it over and over again is tiresome and insulting to me.

I was always taught it was bad manners to comment on other people's manners.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

I was always taught it was bad manners to comment on other people's manners.

Isn't that a Catch-22?

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Isn't that a Catch-22?

Touche!

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

A catfight over thank-you notes?
You people are really bored!

Pretty much everything on here is worth being bitchy about to some posters.