Are you a PNM wondering what you can do to "improve your chances" at recruitment?

[FSUZeta]

well then, maybe the pnm (no matter where she resides) should err on the side of caution and send a thank-you note, whether she thinks it is necessary or not. I have never heard of anyone who complained about receiving a thank you note, but as we have seen here, several women would have appreciated receiving one.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

well then, maybe the pnm (no matter where she resides) should err on the side of caution and send a thank-you note, whether she thinks it is necessary or not. I have never heard of anyone who complained about receiving a thank you note, but as we have seen here, several women would have appreciated receiving one.

I was going to say - maybe the girls don't send thank you notes because they don't know if the women wrote the rec and have no way to find out? I mean isn't that kind of like sending a thank-you note before someone even sends you a present, just assuming they will do so? I would feel quite silly if I wrote a TY note to someone thanking them for the birthday present and never got anything.

Or should they put a TY note in with the packet when they send it to the alumna? That sounds like it would make more sense.

And again, thank you notes are NOT a Southern thing, they're a good etiquette thing, period.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Or should they put a TY note in with the packet when they send it to the alumna? That sounds like it would make more sense.
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This.

That is what was recommended that I do when I went through the process, and what I have suggested to PNMs through the years as I have been helping them with recs. If it is just me that they are sending a packet to, then obviously I would never tell them to inlcude the note. In that case they know me, and would know how to send the note a little later.

But, if they are sending the packets through an alumnae panhellenic, if I have offered to have a friend do a rec for a group that they have been unable to secure, or if I am giving them general pointers for what goes in the packets for recs they are securing on their own, then absolutely I tell them to include the Thank You note in the packet. It can be as generic as to "thank you for taking the time to write the rec for me. I recognize that your summer is busy, and appreciate that you would offer to help. l look forward to attending ABC university and can't wait to participate in recruitment."

Easy Peasy.

And, as someone who has lived my entire life in the south, I have never considered Thank You notes to be unique to this part of the country.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

A catfight over thank-you notes?
You people are really bored!

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Pretty much everything on here is worth being bitchy about to some posters.

And there is certainly nothing catty or bitchy about these two posts.

Originally Posted by 33girl

And again, thank you notes are NOT a Southern thing, they're a good etiquette thing, period.

Originally Posted by Blondie93

And, as someone who has lived my entire life in the south, I have never considered Thank You notes to be unique to this part of the country.

I agree. No matter what region I'm in, people are sending thank you cards or showing appreciation in some way (phone call, lunch, etc).