Boyfriend Hazing

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by nmarti36

For someone who is using my alleged immaturity as an argument you're not making a great case for yourself. You have no knowledge of me, my boyfriend, or our history outside of this context. Therefore you have no right to pass judgment on me or him for a relationship you know nothing about. Obviously if we've been on and off for five years it's because we've had our struggles but have time and time again come to the conclusion that we'd like to work through them. We were very young when our relationship started, hence why it didn't work out before. We were adolescents in the midst of growing pains that warped our perspectives. Now we are adults, trying our best to work things out. No relationship comes without its struggles. I did not come here to get your criticism on my judgment and my relationship. I came here seeking knowledge about something I know very little about in the hopes of understanding someone I care about. So how about you take your blind, ignorant accusations elsewhere.

QFP.

You cannot be surprised that people respond to the information that you volunteer. Surely you did not need strangers on Greekchat to not only school you about what your boyfriend's going through but to tell you what to do with your relationship. Not sharing with strangers is the best way to keep people from forming opinions based on the little that they read.

[nmarti36]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

QFP.

You cannot be surprised that people respond to the information that you volunteer. Surely you did not need strangers on Greekchat to not only school you about what your boyfriend's going through but to tell you what to do with your relationship. Not sharing with strangers is the best way to keep people from forming opinions based on the little that they read.

This is my first time posting in a forum of this nature so perhaps I made a newbie's mistake by divulging too much. I quickly found out which parts those were and regret including them. However, despite what you may believe, I came solely for enlightenment on how to handle the introduction of greek life in our relationship. I do not seek strangers for opinions on whether I should terminate my relationships or not. Clearly I made a mistake in anticipating solely factually based opinions and I should have phrased my post differently.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by nmarti36

This is my first time posting in a forum of this nature so perhaps I made a newbie's mistake by divulging too much. I quickly found out which parts those were and regret including them. However, despite what you may believe, I came solely for enlightenment on how to handle the introduction of greek life in our relationship. I do not seek strangers for opinions on whether I should terminate my relationships or not. Clearly I made a mistake in anticipating solely factually based opinions and I should have phrased my post differently.

It boils down to asking strangers what to do with your relationship. There are no "factually based" opinions on this matter and it is not up to you to determine how we will respond to you. You are not in control once you create the thread.

Your question was answered long before you chose to respond to LatinaAlumna.

[nmarti36]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

It boils down to asking strangers what to do with your relationship. There are no "factually based" opinions on this matter and it is not up to you to determine how we will respond to you. You are not in control once you create the thread.

Your question was answered long before you chose to respond to LatinaAlumna.

You're right. I've gotten all the answers I need. Whatever happens to this thread afterward is no longer my concern. I will be more cautious in the future should I choose to participate in any forum.