I NEED ADVICE!! PLEASE!!!

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by vicplemm

I go to a small school and there are only 5 sororities. DZ, KD, DG, Theta Phi, and Phi Sig. I did fall recruitment and ended up leaving early because i felt really pressured and unsure of what i wanted. plus i had my heart set on one sorority i didnt get an invite to the next round from. I had my heart set on that one and wasn't ready to make a decision about a sorority i wasnt even considering. With all that being said, i really wish i had taken a bid from the other sorority. This campus is very greek oriented. everyone is greek. I want to make more friends and it seems the only answer is greek. Only two sororities are doing spring recruitment and i'm not sure if i'd be happy at either of them. The girls were nice but idk how much we actually had in common. Should i wait til fall again and try for the sororities i wanted or settle for one of the other two? I'm not a snob i just want to make sure i'm happy. Also I think a big factor in not getting my invite for the next round was my GPA in high school. I was really sick my senior year and had to school from the hospital most of the year. This year so far I have a 3.933. When checking GPA during recruitment as a sophomore, do they check high school or just college? if its just college i feel like i would do much better. I know this a lot of random info i just really need help. spring recruitment for one of the sororities i didnt absolutlely love is tonight and i cant decide if i should go.

Thanks!!!

Originally Posted by vicplemm

its not that i didnt consider every chapter. that was poor word choice. i considered every chapter when i got there, but after spending 3 nights with every chapter it was clear to me that two of them were a good fit for me. i felt uncomfortable in the other chapters and the conversations were awkward. i got along instantly in two of the other chapters. and i left on pref night. and my HS GPA was 3.3. And no offense, but you are a bit judgmental for someone calling me a snob. Take your own advice and give everyone a chance.

Originally Posted by vicplemm

im willing to go to any sorority right now i just dont want to get stuck just because i want to be greek. when i could wait til next year and have more options.

You don't have a clue why you were cut and no one in the chapters is going to be able and/or willing to tell you. You don't know if you will have more options next year. Even at less competitive schools, particularly small ones with a strong Greek life where everyone knows everyone, sophomores and particularly re-rushers have even fewer options. Your "top" groups already rejected you and you rejected the "bottom" ones so they all have probably formed an opinion about you. It also looks like everyone (except possibly for one group whose results weren't reported here) made quota during formal too, so there may be very few spots available in those "imperfect" groups. Recruitment is a mutual selection process, but the sororities are definitely driving your car now.

Originally Posted by BemoreLXA

First of all, I don't see how one chapter being suspended is not a good excuse to not meet with some of the brothers. I'm not going to rush a suspended fraternity and be "initiated" underground I only skipped one and thats because they only had 4 members and aren't very involved on campus. It may have been a poor decision, it may not have been. I really won't know because I joined Lambda Chi. Its worked out pretty well though.

Overall, I really disagree with you about having to meet with every fraternity. We don't have rules like formal recruitment and I think thats a good thing. If you only want to meet with one or two organizations, I see nothing wrong with that because its my choice. If I don't want to meet with XYZ because I see them all acting like assholes at the local bar, thats my decision. You know?

Fraternity recruitment is NOTHING like sorority recruitment. We have a million and one rules to follow. Fraternities basically have none. They can give bids to as many or as few as they want. We are limited by quotas and totals and rules about who we have to see during each round of recruitment. You have no place giving any kind of advice here. Stop typing for the sake of hearing yourself type.