to drop or not to drop :/

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You definitely need to drop before this sorority wastes initiation, ritual, and sisterhood on you.

That is unnecessary. New members can be confused, feel overwhelmed, and IMO aren't expected to "get it" before initiation. Her chapter likely wouldn't agree with that "advice".

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

That is unnecessary. New members can be confused, feel overwhelmed, and IMO aren't expected to "get it" before initiation. Her chapter likely wouldn't agree with that "advice".

Then she should've spoken to her chapter instead of coming here. It is sad when GCers have to advise someone to stick it out.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Then she should've spoken to her chapter instead of coming here. It is sad when GCers have to advise someone to stick it out.

Regardless, telling new members to drop just because they have come here for help is not something chapters would appreciate, IMO.

ETA: As an active I never felt that a new member who was considering dropping because they felt overwhelmed and left out should leave. It happens, and they aren't expected to understand the implications of sisterhood and lifetime commitment fully before initiation, especially since they are not privy to ritual. I know I certainly didn't feel much connection to the concept of "the bonds of sisterhood" or my organization beyond my chapter until I was initiated and had participated in ritual. That was what made me understand.

[barbino]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

That is unnecessary. New members can be confused, feel overwhelmed, and IMO aren't expected to "get it" before initiation. Her chapter likely wouldn't agree with that "advice".

Ditto on this.