Bid Day Activiites? Drag show and groping?

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I think you guys are REALLY blowing the "groped" mention out of proportion. Like, to the point that you're being ridiculous. Do any of you have any clue what these shows are really like?

It would be nice if we could just be happy for the PNMs who have found new homes they love instead of picking apart their posts.

Yes. I have a clue. I've even attended a "bachelorette party" at a similiar establishment.

And I still don't see that being groped = fun. The risk management thread is full of activities that were "fun" until they were not. And I'm not buying into the "oh, they wouldn't have done it if they weren't having fun." It would be very difficult to be the one member to object, especially if you were a new member, hoping to fit in. Yes, I'm happy for the PNM, but that doesn't mean I can't object to behavior that does not, imho, seem appropriate for an official sorority event.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

And I'm not buying into the "oh, they wouldn't have done it if they weren't having fun." It would be very difficult to be the one member to object, especially if you were a new member, hoping to fit in. Yes, I'm happy for the PNM, but that doesn't mean I can't object to behavior that does not, imho, seem appropriate for an official sorority event.

Thank you.

Re: a girl not going in if she isn't comfortable... Why put a brand new member in this kind of situation to begin with? After everything the PNMs have gone through during the week to join a sorority and be accepted, how many of them would want to risk being the "weird one" who doesn't want to do something that they might truly find offensive?

I'm very culturally aware and I'm also aware that south Florida is its own little unique world. But I still think this is a mistake and that's why I started a new thread about it rather than hijacking the recruitment story thread. While some of us may be "older" and appear out of touch with what we ask, we've also gained some wisdom along the way and like to help people think through potential mistakes ahead of time.

I realize at all of (gasp!) 43 I must sound really out of touch, but I couldn't let this comment pass without saying something. I wanted to know if this was a common sorority event these days. I know plenty of lovely young women who would make great sorority members who would also be stunned if this was their bid day activity. I would be mortified if I sold them on all the benefits of sorority membership and found out this was their introduction to sorority life.