Question!?I need help! (Switch Sorority?)

honeyD · #1 07-31-2010, 03:10 AM

Last year I went to college as a freshmen and joined a sorority to try and make my college experience better along with meeting new people. Over the summer I learned that my parents could not afford to send me to that college any more and I needed to transfer to another college closer to home, and to help out my family. I am at the college were my whole family went and my mom, aunt, cousins, and grandma were all in the same sorority. I want to be able to experience meeting new friends and being in that bond of sisterhood at this new school and in general! But I am in a tough situation because I already had pledged in another sorority at a different college and the sorority is not at my new college. Is there anything I can possibly do to be in the same sorority my mom and family was in at the new college I am at to try and have that sisterhood experience? I understand there are many polocies and rules about this... but this was out of my control! Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Thankyou.

Leslie Anne · #2 07-31-2010, 03:35 AM

If you joined one of the 26 NPC sororities at your first college and were initiated then it is not possible for you to join another NPC sorority. Sorry but there are no exceptions.

lovespink88 · #3 07-31-2010, 03:59 AM

OHHHHHHHHH But it was out of your control! Of course they can make an exception!!

/sarcasm

If you initiated in your first group, you cannot join any other NPC group.

AZTheta · #4 07-31-2010, 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by honeyD

Last year I went to college as a freshmen and joined a sorority to try and make my college experience better along with meeting new people. Over the summer I learned that my parents could not afford to send me to that college any more and I needed to transfer to another college closer to home, and to help out my family. I am at the college were my whole family went and my mom, aunt, cousins, and grandma were all in the same sorority. I want to be able to experience meeting new friends and being in that bond of sisterhood at this new school and in general! But I am in a tough situation because I already had pledged in another sorority at a different college and the sorority is not at my new college. Is there anything I can possibly do to be in the same sorority my mom and family was in at the new college I am at to try and have that sisterhood experience? I understand there are many polocies and rules about this... but this was out of my control! Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Thankyou.

QFP.

bostongreek · #5 07-31-2010, 05:37 AM

if you change your name, get plastic surgery so that your face is no longer recognizable, and never talk to anyone you knew before again, then maybe.

otherwise no.

TPA85 · #6 07-31-2010, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by bostongreek

if you change your name, get plastic surgery so that your face is no longer recognizable, and never talk to anyone you knew before again, then maybe.

otherwise no.

and get a new SSN.

knight_shadow · #7 07-31-2010, 12:26 PM

swerve/

Is this something that isn't taught to new members? Or something that actives would know? It always surprises me that SO MANY people 1) don't know the rules of their organizations/councils and 2) seemingly have no one in the "real world" to ask.

/swerve

Drolefille · #8 07-31-2010, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

swerve/

Is this something that isn't taught to new members? Or something that actives would know? It always surprises me that SO MANY people 1) don't know the rules of their organizations/councils and 2) seemingly have no one in the "real world" to ask.

/swerve

On top of what everyone else said, I think it's some people's first time associated with any kind of national organization. And they don't quite "get" that ABC at once school is part of the same org as ABC at another, and yes they follow the same national rules and all of them follow the same national conference rules and so on.

They just don't get that it's not the same as joining any other campus organization or association.

Barbie's_Rush · #9 07-31-2010, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

And they don't quite "get" that ABC at once school is part of the same org as ABC at another, and yes they follow the same national rules and all of them follow the same national conference rules and so on.

Until of course they want to affiliate with a top tier chapter at a super competitive school. Then they're all about sisterhood being for life.......

Drolefille · #10 07-31-2010, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Until of course they want to affiliate with a top tier chapter at a super competitive school. Then they're all about sisterhood being for life.......

Ha, no those people are well aware of the national org thing.

I believe in not mixing the categories of crazy pnm

knight_shadow · #11 08-09-2010, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

On top of what everyone else said, I think it's some people's first time associated with any kind of national organization. And they don't quite "get" that ABC at once school is part of the same org as ABC at another, and yes they follow the same national rules and all of them follow the same national conference rules and so on.

They just don't get that it's not the same as joining any other campus organization or association.

I just saw this, since the OP bumped this thread.

I guess it's just another "us vs. them" thing. We were taught that membership is national and that your loyalty lies with the organization, not necessarily the chapter. I'm just amazed at how many times this question comes up.

Alumiyum · #12 08-09-2010, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I just saw this, since the OP bumped this thread.

I guess it's just another "us vs. them" thing. We were taught that membership is national and that your loyalty lies with the organization, not necessarily the chapter. I'm just amazed at how many times this question comes up.

That's what I was taught as well. I've never been under the impression that being initiated into a sorority was something to take lightly, especially as most of my family is greek and I knew very well that once you've promised to be loyal to that organization, it's either them or none at all. I personally suspect the question is asked in the hopes that there is some loophole, or as a way to help the poster rationalize a decision they've already made. It's possible they weren't informed, I guess, but I doubt that's the case.

knight_shadow · #13 08-09-2010, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Alumiyum

That's what I was taught as well. I've never been under the impression that being initiated into a sorority was something to take lightly, especially as most of my family is greek and I knew very well that once you've promised to be loyal to that organization, it's either them or none at all. I personally suspect the question is asked in the hopes that there is some loophole, or as a way to help the poster rationalize a decision they've already made. It's possible they weren't informed, I guess, but I doubt that's the case.

I can see her seeking validation, but the "seeking a loophole" part is what irks me.

"No exceptions" means "no exceptions" (as far as membership is concerned). If I REALLY wanted to find something out, I'd 1) consult my org's/council's constitution, bylaws, or SOPs* or 2) ask a real, live member.

*side-sidebar: Who gets access to the Green Book? Is this something given to each NM? Each chapter? Each local Panhellenic?

Drolefille · #14 08-09-2010, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I just saw this, since the OP bumped this thread.

I guess it's just another "us vs. them" thing. We were taught that membership is national and that your loyalty lies with the organization, not necessarily the chapter. I'm just amazed at how many times this question comes up.

We're taught that too, but I just think some people are naive. And since you join the NPC early and THEN learn these things vs learning a lot to even be considered to join other orgs, that's the us vs. them part, I think.

ASTalumna06 · #15 07-31-2010, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

swerve/

Is this something that isn't taught to new members? Or something that actives would know? It always surprises me that SO MANY people 1) don't know the rules of their organizations/councils and 2) seemingly have no one in the "real world" to ask.

/swerve

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Originally Posted by honeyD

I understand there are many polocies and rules about this... but this was out of my control!

She already knows the answer. She either a) doesn't want to believe it, or b) thinks that they'll actually make an exception for her (because she's special and it was "out of her control")