How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by MasTNX

I don't know a lot about NPC, but why wouldn't it work?

Confession: I think I got the idea from a Lifetime movie or something similar. The moms and daughters were all touring the house together, meeting all the current sisters, telling stories of their time in the house. I guess I'm a sucker for thinking it seemed realistic.

It's considered dirty rushing. You're not really allowed to have contact from one sorority to the potential new members, legacies or not. It's possible to have a mother/daughter lunch or something, but not a chapter of actives with incoming freshmen or anything like that.

It's part of how we all work as part of the NPC, and keeps a chapter that has more resources (or alumnae in the area) from putting on events when other chapters might not be able to afford it, have the space for it etc. When it comes to recruitment we try to put ourselves on an even playing field.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

just as you ache a little when your child is chosen last for the sandlot soccer team, or when she breaks up with their first boyfriend and is so upset she can hardly catch her breath, you ache when they are not chosen to pledge your sorority.

usually it is okay if the daughter feels that that group is not right for them, because she was able to make that determination.

i had a hard time understanding how mothers felt this way, until i had my own children.

I know that at some ASA chapters, the membership makeup was as different as it could possibly be from my chapter and there's no way in hell I (collegian I) would have ever gotten a bid. Why on earth should I think that they would open their arms to my daughter? Then again, if you managed to get into ANY GLO at an SEC or other competitive school, I think you feel a little more entitled and that you've reached the top, so things for you (and your progeny) should stay there.

I really would love to see these moms get in a time machine and see if their collegiate experience was really as wonderful and roses and daisies as they say it was and that's why they're sad the daughter didn't get a bid, or if the REAL reason is that it's a social climbing thing. I would wager there's a little of both.

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

from experience with my alumnae chapter, most of the women have no idea what goes on in the collegiate chapters anymore. There is a disconnect between collegiate and alumnae activities, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but it makes it difficult to keep alumnae up to date with the realities of recruitment.

Sometimes I think they're actually TRYING to keep alums and collegians separated, unless the alum chapter is bankrolling/supporting a collegiate chapter directly. There doesn't seem to be that type of disconnect in NPHC groups, as the graduate and undergraduate chapters have more similarities than differences.