How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I understand that, Carnation, but you should also know that this causes a lot of heartache for those daughters because of these uninformed mothers. Times have changed, and we need to find a way to get this information to these alumnae so that their daughters don't suffer the consequences.

Exactly. It was a lot easier to get into a lot of competitive colleges back in the day too. Haven't we heard about HOPE on this board a million billion times and how it's made it so much harder to get into UGA?

If parents can get their heads out of their asses and figure that out, they can certainly do the same with sorority membership. Especially since many of them seem to be treating it as a commodity, a thing their daughters need to check off to prove they were "raised right" rather than lifetime sisterhood.

Drolefille - when you were gone we had a thread about "weighting" legacies - for example, the longtime alum chapter president's daughter gets more of a preference than random alum's daughter. I don't think it's fair or desirable, for many reasons. There are LOTS of reasons people aren't involved as alums -one of the most basic ones being there might not be an alum chapter near them. Also, something like that just smacks a little too much of bartering - if I give $1000 to the Foundation, my daughter is higher up on the bid list - for my taste.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Drolefille - when you were gone we had a thread about "weighting" legacies - for example, the longtime alum chapter president's daughter gets more of a preference than random alum's daughter. I don't think it's fair or desirable, for many reasons. There are LOTS of reasons people aren't involved as alums -one of the most basic ones being there might not be an alum chapter near them. Also, something like that just smacks a little too much of bartering - if I give $1000 to the Foundation, my daughter is higher up on the bid list - for my taste.

I get that and I wouldn't want anything that detailed. More like, has donated some amount to the foundation, active in an alum chapter or other volunteer work with the sorority, etc. It shouldn't be well Suzie's mom donated 3k and Penny's mom only donated 1k.

Nor should it guarantee a bid, but it's a way to show that mom, aunt, grandma, whatever has actually been engaged with the sorority over the past 20 years. If it existed (or exists) I'd really just want there to be "alumna" and "active alumna" and have some really basic level of support that equals "active." And I say that as someone who doesn't meet that status now due to my situation/location/etc.

But eh, don't want to rehash that if it's been done, I'll go thread hunting later.