Boyfriend Question (please help)

[luvdrunk]

So I forgot to block him on g-talk and left myself signed on he said things that I'm glad I wasn't "with him" to read things where he called me a whore, said I deserve to have the crud (put nicer) beaten out of me, my personal fav... "dumb broad" then as a last plea he asked me to marry him. YEAH RIGHT. He is making it too easy to start getting over him. I'm grateful.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by luvdrunk

So I forgot to block him on g-talk and left myself signed on he said things that I'm glad I wasn't "with him" to read things where he called me a whore, said I deserve to have the crud (put nicer) beaten out of me, my personal fav... "dumb broad" then as a last plea he asked me to marry him. YEAH RIGHT. He is making it too easy to start getting over him. I'm grateful.

I'm with honeychile. Stay the hell away from him and make sure he doesn't have access to your apartment/keys/car/etc. At least call someone and explore your legal options, if you can't figure out who else to call contact a women's shelter/domestic violence center and they should have contact info or someone you can talk to right there.

Protect yourself first and foremost.

[AGDee]

Do you have a log of that? I believe that could be useful evidence to get a restraining order.

I married a guy like this. Trust me when I say BE GLAD that he is gone. It is not fun to secretly move out, be afraid that he will find out where you live, etc. My counselor at the time told me that the most dangerous time is when you break up with him so we took several steps to protect me through that time. DO listen to people above who suggest you seek legal advice now. If you don't know how to find that advice, call a local domestic violence shelter. They will know who you should contact.

[MaggieXi]

Stuff is just stuff. Even if it is expensive, it can be replaced. You can not be and your emotional well-being can't be either. Why put yourself through more communication with him to get "stuff" back?

If it is absolutely imperative that you get things back - have your third party and a friend (no one should go in alone with this guy) go in with a list and get the items and leave. Have the third party store the in a neutral place for a few days, that way your ex can't follow the third party with the intention of confronting you there. (Can you tell I've done this before?)

Also, be sure to protect your credit right now. I was in a abusive-controlling relationship and after I left, he opened up a bunch of credit cards using my SSN taken off personal docs that he had gotten his hands on while we were together. By the time that was figured out, Chase Bank, was not happy with him.