Dating/Friends With Introverted Guy

Originally Posted by BluPhire

Being an introvert myself (a true introvert) a lot of people that use (and especially the ones I'm reading here) are not the true definition of introversion. We are not shy, and we definitely aren't against talking to people or groups. It pretty much boils down to if we had a choice we find pleasure in doing things on our own instead of always kicking it with a group.

I still kicked it with my frat brothers, but I call very few friend...even fewer close friend. But those that I call friend, you would think I was the most extroverted person in the room. At the end of the day though, I felt it was more my "duty" in the frat to make appearances (small chapter) until we got larger and more frat brothers became the face of the org.

My wife didn't understand me at first because she took my introversion as shyness. She didn't realize I like to choose my words around people, especially people I don't know, because well i don't know them...and I could care less what people thought of me. It caused controversy...but then as she got to know me (and compared me to other family members who are very extroverted) she respected that I don't try to quickly take over a room. Helps keep foot in mouth disease at bay. She knows that when I do speak to people it is out of an obligation to being cordial. I could careless about making friendship with you when I first meet you. Now if you got a shy person who can't even communicate their feelings, that's not introversion...that's somebody that is socially inept.

Yes well that's all fine and dandy. But when was it your turn to finally tell/show her that you loved her? I mean she had her patience with you, and this is a wonderful experience thank you for sharing, but if an introvert was careful around people at first and careless about friendship then when is it ok for them to express? Ever? How and when did you final make a move and pass that introverted transition? Because if a relationship is only a one way street, no matter how much patience the other person has, that introverted person will never express anything if that is his/her nature.