Dating/Friends With Introverted Guy

[DrPhil]

I think you need to know whether he's truly an "introvert" or whether there's something else going on. People assume that "introverts" are shy, have some type of anxiety, or have a problem with relationships but this is not necessarily the case. Sometimes "introvert" is an excuse that people use to behave the way they do. I looked up "introvert" in wikipedia to lazily refamiliarize myself with the labels of "introvert" and "extrovert."

With that said, I couldn't deal with a man who I had to be the voice of the relationship and the one who expressed my emotions, while always trying to figure out what he's feeling or getting him to express himself. Yougc, only you know this man and whether dealing with him on a nonplatonic level is really worth it. If you feel it is worth your patience and your constant need to probe him, then remember that you will be getting what you figuratively signed up for. Just know yourself first because you may never really know him. Or you may really know him because he may open up to you--that's all up to him regardless of how hard you try.

Good luck.

[1stSoon2BePhD]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Sometimes "introvert" is an excuse that people use to behave the way they do.

I never thought about this, but I agree. You have to know exactly what you are dealing with. In my case, my boyfriend has a history of being withdrawn in social situations. Every situation is different.