New SCOTUS nominee

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Originally Posted by I.A.S.K.

Lesbo is as much a slur to me as gay (again gay isnt a slur).

As well as, it does not matter what it means to you. Your lack of knowledge on this matter has been demonstrated freely throughout your posts, so stop relying on what things are "to you."

Here's the thing: Im not saying Kagan is or isnt gay. Im saying she comes across as gay to me. If we're going to play "guess the sexuality" (clearly since this happens to be your issue you miss the humor in even playing the game because it doesnt matter if she's gay and because realistically only Kagan could answer the question of her sexuality) then your guess is as good as mine. Mine happens to be gay. The problem might be that you're taking this seriously when the point of "guess the sexual orientation" and The Maury show is that neither of these can be taken seriosly. I cant look at the average person and tell which gender they'd like to screw. I can say Kagan gave me gay vibes.

You get gay vibes from a picture? Why can't you even begin to say what you base this on? Also, you're the one who decided that you could/should play "guess the sexuality" in the first place. None of us compelled you to do so.

Heterosexist: but the issue is im not making any determinations about her worth or value based on her sexual Orientation. Im guessing her SO. Its not good or bad it just is. If she's gay cool if not I was wrong. Being heterosexist or even sexist denotes a judgment of worth, equality, etc. and Im making none of the sort.

You do not understand that playing guess the sexuality of a public figure is something typically done to degrade someone. When you participate in typically discriminatory behavior, you will be viewed as discriminatory EVEN IF your intentions are innocent.

Thats interesting. Most guys I know prefer gay or homosexual. Women have by far had the most varying IDs ever in my experience Lesbo, Dyke, Gay, Lesbian (this is probably used least often) queer and others.

Then use those terms among friends where you know they know what you mean.

Don't wear that dishiki (or DuRag) are you trying to look black? Or maybe she looks jewish. Its been ages since I've changed the way I am because of what other people say and do. Some people use gay as a slur. I dont. Maybe Im weird in that I dont think being gay/lesbo/homo/dyke/queer is wrong or bad.

Obviously Kagan hasn't changed who she is either, that's not the point. The point is the implied criticism of race/religion/orientation in the statement.

Dude looks sad as hell. I cant get over his eyes. He looks like those abused dogs in the animal shelter commericals. He does look like he watches star trek, is a relative of Larry King and is old. lol.
The lady, she looks really gay. Okay, Its unfair because I actually know who she is so I know that she's gay (Ellen is one of my favorite commedians). But if I didnt know her sexual orientation then I wouldt be able to give a guess at all. Im not saying you can tell the SO of all(or even most) people based on their looks. Some people do give off gay vibes and/or look gay. Some people set off my gaydar while others dont.

But she looks nothing like Kagan! How ever could you tell! She looks gay because she is. He looks gay because he is. Adam Lambert looks gay because he is. Unless you've been hooking up with Elena Kagan, or she has come out to you, she doesn't look gay. Do you get the concept? There IS NO "looking gay." Your definition so far has been looking masculine as a woman or feminine as a man. And that's outright bullshit. Portia looks masculine? Sir Ian McKellen looks feminine?

We're not talking about hanging out with friends and getting the impression that someone might be gay. I'll give you "vibes" with people you know. I call bullshit on you being able to tell by Kagan's "mannerisms" that she likes women.

LOL at you saying that I think people should deprive themselves of relationships of any kind. (Where'd you get that from? Or was it that you assumed that because I made the distinction that I am one of those nuts who thinks gay people dont choose to be gay, but that they can fight their gayness like the preacher who took his gay boy toy to europe [And im not even being sarcastic I actually really just want to know]) That is not my sense of morality. Far from it. I think that if you're gay you have every right to love, sex, Marry and do as you damn well please with who you'd like. And anyone who feels like you dont you should promptly tell to kiss your ass. I make the distinction between the two because I do not believe being gay is a choice but I do recognize that there are choices that exist for gay people that dont exist for others. Can you choose to hide your sexuality? Yes. Can you choose to ignore it? Yes. Does that make the fact that hiding who you are will make you better off in society right? Hell no. But it does give you an option that others dont have. My sense of morality is pretty basic treat people with humanity and love.

How exactly is celibacy/chastity/choosing to "ignore" your sexuality a choice that only gay people have? Anyone can not be in a relationship if they so desire. Anyone can pretend not to have romantic or sexual feelings.

In fact, far more often gay people are still forced, pressured, or expected to hide those feelings or be ostracized, fired, excommunicated, etc. That's not much of a choice.

If you expect people to "fight their gayness" and yet not expect people to "fight their straightness" then you're discriminating. I assume that because you make some false distinction that gay people have a choice that straight people do not that yes, you expect them to make that choice for some moral/ethical/religious/other reason.