Social Affiliates?

[ree-Xi]

A bit of-topic, but...along the lines of what someone else mentioned, the OP might be missing the structure that her sorority provided. Meetings on a certain day, sisterhood dinners on another, annual or semesterly events to plan for and look forward to (recruitment, formals, Greek Week, etc.). When you're Greek, there's a "built in" schedule for you. I can see how it might be difficult to go from a structured, scheduled life outside classes with a large group of girls who you are close with and a common bond, to one where you have to find the bits and pieces through other outlets.

Whereas being Greek isn't the only access to a social or structured life, going from Greek to non-Greek is an adjustment (in addition to losing the daily interactions with sisters and being part of something you deeply care about).

It's work; you're starting over at a new school. In a way, you need to get out of the collegiate Greek mindset and go on with campus life as if you were a new, unaffiliated freshman. There are tons of ways to find some structure (such as the campus newspaper or yearbook that has a schedule and deadlines), something you can get emotionally invested in (a faith-based group or a hobby), camaraderie/goal-oriented (intramural sports or theater - backstage or onstage), and leadership and planning (student government or campus committees).

Chances are, you did more at your previous school than just be a member of your sorority, or perhaps there were things you wanted to do but didn't have the time. Now is a chance to do something different. You can still fulfill your needs, and you'll be broadening your circle of friends. I went to two schools and have friends from both.

If there is a service sorority, that might be an option as well. Just remember that you are not replacing your social sorority, but that the two types of organizations exist for very specific reasons. My membership in Gamma Sigma Sigma and Alpha Xi Delta are two different worlds. Sure, some things overlap, but they each mean two very different things to me.

I personally wouldn't want to affiliate with a group if I could never be a member. I'd either feel cheated or left out. No reason why you can't be friends with Greeks at your new school, but it doesn't make a lot of sense to me to be a 'tag along".

Change is never easy, but you can have a great life at your new school. Good luck!