Hope for me?

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I don't get how people who have never been part of a sorority would know "how much they can offer" a sorority as an AI.

For an eye-opening experience, I suggest talking to active alumnae of sororities (people you know) and ask them just what it is they do as alumnae. Most of their efforts are focused on helping nearby chapters (if one exists) in various capacities (advising, assisting during recruitment, mentoring the collegiates), and carrying out and meeting the sorority's ideals and interests.

Perhaps you will understand what people are trying to tell you.

Why not find organizations that you have something in common with? (Yes, BSP is something you should look into - adult women who are looking for a sisterhood). Perhaps people who similar goals or interests. There are so many paths to personal fulfillment. Just find the right one for you.