American Torry-Ann Hansen SENDS BACK Adopted Russian Son Artem

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

And they have waited, and waited, and waited and waited for their profile to be chosen by some mom giving up her baby or young child.

Say what now?

Do completely closed (i.e., parent surrenders baby to adoption agency and that's the last they know of it) adoptions not exist anymore? Or did they just not want to do it that way?

[RaggedyAnn]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Say what now?

Do completely closed (i.e., parent surrenders baby to adoption agency and that's the last they know of it) adoptions not exist anymore? Or did they just not want to do it that way?

One of the reasons we decided to wait on trying to adopt is that open adoptions are very popular right now...right down to the fact that some mothers want to have the ability to call the house if they are having a bad day. When Andy and I heard that, we decided that we may not be ready for the adoption route yet. Adoption through fostering may still be an option for us, but we haven't decided yet because that brings a whole set of risks with it.

[carnation]

They do exist; it depends on the agency and some of them give the birthparents a choice of open, semi-open, or closed. I've seen prospective adoptive parent profiles that omit their names and other identifying information. Also, not all agencies allow the birthparents to look through profiles.

We've known 2 of our birthmothers. The one here in town knew of us ahead of time and she and her kids moved away when the baby was a year old. We've been in touch with one of our overseas birthmothers since our daughter was born, exchanging yearly letters, and this year a couple of her children friended us on Facebook.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Say what now?

Do completely closed (i.e., parent surrenders baby to adoption agency and that's the last they know of it) adoptions not exist anymore? Or did they just not want to do it that way?

Thank you, BabyPink; we do appreciate your support! I also suggested to the worker that we could have our kids run out and knock over a few banks and then might we be able to adopt again?