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Originally Posted by sarolasju
My school doesn't currently have a DDD chapter, and I just don't feel like any of the orgs we have now are right for me. I did my research on NPC orgs and fell in LOVE with tri-delta, so I'm hoping to start a new chapter at my school!
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Originally Posted by sarolasju
when I mentioned the already present sororities not feeling right, I didn't mean I don't feel like I fit in with the girls, they all seemed plenty nice. What I mean is that I don't feel that I can identify with the purpose and ideals of the orgs themselves.
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Originally Posted by sarolasju
As I mentioned earlier, its nothing to do with fitting in with the girls. They all seemed very nice and I'm actually friends with a few from different groups.
...Of course all the groups have similar purposes in that they're women groups for support and friendship and character development etc, but if they were all so similar then why do you only fall in love with ONE of them? Of course i can fit in with the girls in the pre-existing sororities, but aside from loving my sisters, I want to really love the letters I'm representing.
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Originally Posted by sarolasju
When I rushed we did informational sessions, went bowling with one group, pool hall with another, there was a slumber party and an ice cream social, a community service event for each...and a few other events. It was fun and that's how I actually made friends with a few of the girls, and sometimes I do wish I just accepted one of the bids, but..shoulda coulda woulda..
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Originally Posted by sarolasju
I haven't felt that "click" with any NPC orgs on campus.. A couple people, yes; but never the groups as a whole. I also find that I look primarily at what the org represents, rather than the sisters first.
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I think we're all just a little confused as to what exactly was involved in your evaluation process when deciding that DDD is "right" for you.
You're friends with some of the girls in the chapters, and that's great. You're not all supposed to be best friends on day 1. And 99% of the time, girls aren't best friends with ALL of their sisters.. ever.
I think it's just difficult to understand why/how you feel that you can't identify with an NPC's ideals. If you read the creeds and/or purposes of all of them, I'm pretty sure you'll find declarations of love for the sorority, and for fellow sisters. You'll find statements about the importance of education, and of helping others in need. And you'll find messages about values to uphold and morals to live by.
If you like the idea of being associated with St. Jude's and helping children with cancer, there's nothing saying that you can't do that if you're a member of another organization. And I guarantee that if you joined another NPC, you'd probably find out all kinds of fun and interesting things about them as the process went along that you probably can't find on any website. Private rituals being a prime example of that!
If DDD was already on your campus and it was an option for you to join through recruitment, that's one thing. But attempting to bring them to campus because you did a little research and ONLY see yourself in that organization, it's just a little out of reach. And as has already been said, there's a very good chance that you'd end up in a colony made of up girls that you don't know... bringing you back to square one.
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