want to bring a Tri-Delta chapter to my university!

[sarolasju]

As I mentioned earlier, its nothing to do with fitting in with the girls. They all seemed very nice and I'm actually friends with a few from different groups. I only have three panhel orgs on my campus, the rest are local. Not that I see ANYTHING wrong with the locals, but I don't intend on staying in this town for my whole life, and I like the idea of having alumnae chapters around the country. Of course all the groups have similar purposes in that they're women groups for support and friendship and character development etc, but if they were all so similar then why do you only fall in love with ONE of them? Of course i can fit in with the girls in the pre-existing sororities, but aside from loving my sisters, I want to really love the letters I'm representing. I hope that makes sense. But I guess if its hopeless then well..that's that.

[ThetaDancer]

Originally Posted by sarolasju

As far as I know, my school is still waiting for a formal decision on NPC expansion, I did rush my freshman year, got two bids but turned them down, and no I am not the only person interested in bringing DDD to my school.

I don't really understand what you mean by this. Is your school considering expansion? If so, who is waiting on the formal decision? Or do you mean you're waiting to hear back on whether you school is open for expansion at all?

Originally Posted by sarolasju

As I mentioned earlier, its nothing to do with fitting in with the girls. They all seemed very nice and I'm actually friends with a few from different groups. I only have three panhel orgs on my campus, the rest are local. Not that I see ANYTHING wrong with the locals, but I don't intend on staying in this town for my whole life, and I like the idea of having alumnae chapters around the country. Of course all the groups have similar purposes in that they're women groups for support and friendship and character development etc, but if they were all so similar then why do you only fall in love with ONE of them? Of course i can fit in with the girls in the pre-existing sororities, but aside from loving my sisters, I want to really love the letters I'm representing. I hope that makes sense. But I guess if its hopeless then well..that's that.

At this point, I don't think there's really anything to do besides wait and see what responses you get. If I were you, I don't think I'd be contacting additional people. You've reached out to alumnae groups, national headquarters, and school representatives and expressed your interest...so that's that for now. Maybe you could search around greekchat a little more to build a stronger understanding of how NPC expansion works.

Also, I think there are things to love about every NPC group, and if, as you said, you really get along with women currently in the sororities at your school, it's hard for me to understand why you wouldn't "love the letters."

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by sarolasju

Of course all the groups have similar purposes in that they're women groups for support and friendship and character development etc, but if they were all so similar then why do you only fall in love with ONE of them? Of course i can fit in with the girls in the pre-existing sororities, but aside from loving my sisters, I want to really love the letters I'm representing. I hope that makes sense. But I guess if its hopeless then well..that's that.

Maybe I am not reading your intent well, but I am failing to see what it is about Tri-Delta that has you intrigued that you are not feeling with the existing chapters.

As for the part that I bolded... it is very possible to fall in love with several chapters during recruitment. I did. It took me over an hour to fill out my pref card because I loved all three of the chapters that I visited for pref. That is not uncommon at all. Many PNMs give the ranking order long, careful thought, because they had such positive experiences in multiple chapters. THere are other PNMs who have lukewarm feelings after pref round, but choose to give a chapter a chance.

Once you join a group you become immersed in that chapter, so of course the bond that you feel there will only continue to flourish, and that is where the "love" comes into play.

You haven't shared too much of your recruitment experience except that you received 2 bids. (guessing that one of those was a local?) Did you accept either bid?

What does Tri-Delta offer that the three on campus groups do not?

[navane]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

You haven't shared too much of your recruitment experience except that you received 2 bids. (guessing that one of those was a local?)

Maybe she went through informal recruitment and that's how she received more than one bid?

.....Kelly

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by sarolasju

Of course i can fit in with the girls in the pre-existing sororities, but aside from loving my sisters, I want to really love the letters I'm representing. I hope that makes sense.

Often, probably more often than not, the lasting love of the letters is a by-product of the bonds with one's sisters (or brothers).