A unique and kind of sad recruit story

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

Is this the "sad" part of your "Unique and kind of Sad" story? I'm still confused as to why you posted it.

[groovypq]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Of course you would show up in this thread to make sure everyone knows how it supports your view that women in top tier groups are awful beotches.

I'm pretty convinced this story overall was legit, although details were embellished. The thing that makes me feel squicky is that the OP appears to have unresolved issues about her experience. I can't imagine why someone would even look for, much less join and post on, a Greek web site years after college when they weren't Greek.

I guess there's always AI.

<hijack>

THANK YOU! I've used that word before, and my bf thought I was making it up!

</hijack>

I was waiting for AI to pop up...

[AOEforme]

This whole thing was/is just icky. It never, ever seemed like a "complement". Where did she ever complement Greek Women?

I especially dislike the part where Recruitment gives her a panic attack because she's being judged. I'm pretty sure as a theater major, you'd have to deal with rejectment and the like constantly.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

I don't know what you think you read, but there is nothing I have written on GC that stated or implied what you are inferring. It simply isn't true. The only way someone could come to that conclusion is to read their own ideas into something I've written.

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...29#post1719829 perhaps?

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Is this the "sad" part of your "Unique and kind of Sad" story? I'm still confused as to why you posted it.

One of the girls in my pledge class wore a banana clip in her senior picture. That was questionable, unique, and kind of sad. (She was terminated by then though. She sent me on a blind date with a man wearing polyester high waters and an eagle necklace.)

[GTAlphaPhi]

Even though the OP was generally positive about my sorority (but thought them "cold" and "stagnant" and ranked them in the last quartile), I didn't really care. Each chapter is different at each school. What I didn't appreciate was her decision to reveal her entire code. I can't even remember the last time I've seen someone do that. I feel like sorority identities should only be revealed in a maximum of three places, maybe four, in a given recruitment story:

1) The sorority that extended you a bid at the end (duh!).

2) The sorority that ended up being your second choice at the end of recruitment if and only if they were a super-close second (or tied with first) and you had only great things to write about them.

3) If you chose to list all of the sororities at the very beginning of your story. (E.g. "I go a public university in the southeast and my school has 7 sororities: A, B, C, D, E, F, and G.)

4) If you choose to mention (at the beginning of the story) that you hold a legacy status with any of the groups --- but only if you have positive or neutral things to say about that group further along in your story!

Of course, if your story doesn't have a happy ending (ahem!) or you're less than thrilled with your eventual bid, it may be wiser to not reveal any part of your code -- at all. It should go without saying that smart storytellers don't mention any identifying details of the inter/national organization or a specific chapter (including their house!). No mention of colors, symbols, song/chant lyrics, detailed descriptions of a house's façade, etc.

OK, end of rant.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by AOEforme

I especially dislike the part where Recruitment gives her a panic attack because she's being judged. I'm pretty sure as a theater major, you'd have to deal with rejectment and the like constantly.

this! you are constantly being judged as a theater major and as an actress. although they are usually worried about rejection

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

this! you are constantly being judged as a theater major and as an actress. although they are usually worried about rejection

Boo- I thought you'd enjoy the reference to another trainwreck of a thread.

But that's my point: you do face judgement and rejection in all areas and walks of life. But, as an actress, it seems you are especially prone to constant scrutiny.

[gee_ess]

I vote for the unresolved issues theory. I think the OP has regrets, unfulfilled goals, etc and this is just one of them. I don't think she can get past the whole experience, and would like to reach out to the Greek community for validation.

Bless her heart...(said with a southern drawl)



ETA - for the record - I do not think Trideltsallie has a reputation for being an "upper tier hater." I don't get that, even after reviewing the thread that 33girl linked.

[AXiDMeesh]

Originally Posted by GTAlphaPhi

Even though the OP was generally positive about my sorority (but thought them "cold" and "stagnant" and ranked them in the last quartile), I didn't really care. Each chapter is different at each school. What I didn't appreciate was her decision to reveal her entire code. I can't even remember the last time I've seen someone do that. I feel like sorority identities should only be revealed in a maximum of three places, maybe four, in a given recruitment story:

Well when I wrote my recruitment story I revealed the sororities, but I knew I was going to do that so I purposely didn't say anything bad about them. OP trashed AND revealed them, and that was just plain distasteful.

[GTAlphaPhi]

That's because you were one of those smart storytellers!

Originally Posted by AXiDMeesh

Well when I wrote my recruitment story I revealed the sororities, but I knew I was going to do that so I purposely didn't say anything bad about them. OP trashed AND revealed them, and that was just plain distasteful.

[ellebud]

Ok, my two cents: As a mother of three kids I understand stress. I know sadness and having relatives (parents and grandparents) die. As a cancer survivor I understand the toll that illness plays on your body and soul BUT...how many times (sometimes with a good or bad response) has a sister, during Pref, talked about how her sisters helped her through the tough times in life? Heck, my sisters helped me (as an adult) get through cancer treatment. This is a story, assuming that all is true, of how not to grow up, how the OP failed sisterhood, and the failure to grow as a person by outgrowing the slings and arrows of high school.

Life is filled with what ifs. I think that many of us, at a certain age, certainly say that more than a teenager or young adult. But it is what you do with your ruminations that proves your metal as an adult. A sister rolled her eyes at you during recruitment? Maybe she did, maybe she didn't. So what? That might give you pause, but it shouldn't rule your life. You didn't like your sorority? Make it better. You had problems with your sisters? Try and find one or two you do like and see how the situation improves. Can't find ANY sisters that you are compatible with? Look homeward angel.

This thread does have educational value in the sense that I compared it to my daughter's recent recruitment. Both girls were ambivelent about the process. Both girls (and all girls going through) were afraid of rejection. Both had second thoughts (ok..mine for 5 seconds) about joining. The difference? My daughter has made friends and loves her house. She stuck it out during the first days of change, a change which is difficult for everyone. And my daughter (obnoxious bragging, I'm sorry) hasn't blamed anyone for what didn't happen.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ellebud

Ok, my two cents: As a mother of three kids I understand stress. I know sadness and having relatives (parents and grandparents) die. As a cancer survivor I understand the toll that illness plays on your body and soul BUT...how many times (sometimes with a good or bad response) has a sister, during Pref, talked about how her sisters helped her through the tough times in life? Heck, my sisters helped me (as an adult) get through cancer treatment. This is a story, assuming that all is true, of how not to grow up, how the OP failed sisterhood, and the failure to grow as a person by outgrowing the slings and arrows of high school.

Life is filled with what ifs. I think that many of us, at a certain age, certainly say that more than a teenager or young adult. But it is what you do with your ruminations that proves your metal as an adult. A sister rolled her eyes at you during recruitment? Maybe she did, maybe she didn't. So what? That might give you pause, but it shouldn't rule your life. You didn't like your sorority? Make it better. You had problems with your sisters? Try and find one or two you do like and see how the situation improves. Can't find ANY sisters that you are compatible with? Look homeward angel.

This thread does have educational value in the sense that I compared it to my daughter's recent recruitment. Both girls were ambivelent about the process. Both girls (and all girls going through) were afraid of rejection. Both had second thoughts (ok..mine for 5 seconds) about joining. The difference? My daughter has made friends and loves her house. She stuck it out during the first days of change, a change which is difficult for everyone. And my daughter (obnoxious bragging, I'm sorry) hasn't blamed anyone for what didn't happen.

Quoted for awesomeness.

[Miriverite]

oops, hit reply on the wrong thread.

[KSUViolet06]

Miriverite:

Please start your own thread, so that peeps who want to follow it can do so without having to read through the shady one you posted it in

Thank you kindly!

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by 33girl

So to redeem this thread, I give you Christopher Meloni on a fur rug.

OMG Could he be any more beautiful! drool!

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

Ohhhh how much are you willing to bet that the "prayer" in Alpha Delta Pi was actually their creed? Doesn't it say something about Christian womanhood? That makes a lot more sense, although it still seems weird that they would have done it that early vs. their preference ceremony.

10 bucks says it probably was our creed.