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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
lol
Nope--or the guy at Scrubway or Taco Hell. (I'm kidding)  |
you're not kidding. but folks have already busted your chops enough.
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Originally Posted by 33girl
I could care less what a guy does for a living. If he's the fry guy at McDonald's but treats me well, does electrical/mechanical/carpentry things around the house I don't have a CLUE how to do, and is a good and involved father, well yes I do want fries with that. I'd rather have that than the guy who works 80 hours a week.
Working in what some would call a "dead end job" is not an indicator of lack of ambition or responsibility, if they show responsibility in other areas.
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hahaha @ "i do want fries with that." its funny how much we let what we do for a living define other parts of our lives. Ambition and responsibility can show through hobbies, how they treat those around them, goals they have outside of work... (in other words, what she said)
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Originally Posted by epchick
A lot of people work better jobs than fast food places and still live paycheck to paycheck. A "good" job and ambition don't mean anything when you can't even live w/i your means and are up to your eyeballs in debt.
ETA: A manager at Starbucks makes more money than a teacher (at least here they do). I wouldn't necessarily knock "fast-food" jobs.
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Shoot, my sister and I are having trouble seeing eye-to-eye. She thought I looked down on her for working at Ikea (she works cashier in the cafe) and I think she looks down on me because I have a "comfy" job (ie i sit at a desk, in an office).
Both of our jobs are demanding and equally important. I may sit at a desk, but im also up and out doing field work and managing relationships. She works on her feet all day but is punching buttons, occasionally refilling containers of condiments and dealing with crappy customer attitudes. Both of our jobs are career-related: i want to work in education/nonprofit, she wants to go into food service and interns at a hotel
she makes more than me and i have a degree. So who's the more dateable one?
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Originally Posted by AGDee
My problem is, I need someone who is intellectually stimulating to me. Most people who are intellectually stimulating would be bored to tears in those types of jobs. It's not about their actual job, but more about needing someone who has the same intellectual needs that I do and that includes a need to be challenged intellectually on a daily basis.
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Originally Posted by SydneyK
I disagree.
If one spouse makes enough money for the family to live comfortably, then there's no reason why the other spouse needs to be bringing in a steady income, if any income at all.
Having a housewife or househusband allows the couple to have the day to day stuff taken care of without intruding on the family's time together. Said housewives and househusbands (hws and hhs) aren't necessarily unambitious, either. For instance, I've seen hws and hhs who are huge assets to their communities because of the volunteer work they do.
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For this to work, a lot of serious, honest conversations would have to be had. I would love for my future "for richer or poorer" to be 100% OK with begin the sole breadwinner. I already work for pennies a day but to be able to afford to that is a different story.
A friend of mine (older friend) and her husband keep finances seperate. He makes decent money working for Verizon (the hands-on stuff, not corporate). They own a Brooklyn brownstone, he pays the bills, car note, etc. She is a paralegal and while i have no idea what she makes, she seems to keep herself and her daughter well-kept. She says her husband says its his job to take care of the needs of the home, and for her to take care of the extras--manicures, salon visits, ballet lessons for the children, etc. When she wanted a dog, it came out of her pocket.
The arrangement works for both of them. She doesnt have to work but she like shiny things, so... she works for it.
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