Do You Judge?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by als463

Okay, fair enough. Do you find yourself drawn to certain types of people moreso than others? I'm not saying that not everyone judges. I guess I am just asking what it is that makes YOU judge people?

I talked about the Satanist thing, but I gave my reasons for it. Anyone else have certain circumstances they want to discuss.

Also-thanks to everyone for keeping this thread going. I'm interested to hear what everyone has to say.

I'm a black man who grew up in the white suburbs, only to join a Latino frat. Needless to say, I'm drawn to many different types of people. Depending on the situation, I'll gravitate toward certain groups (ex. If 98% of the people at an event are uneducated, I'll try to seek out that 2%). That doesn't mean that I harbor any ill-will toward the others (I'm not going to walk into a room and shout "all you non-college grads raise your hands so I know not to talk to you!" I'll interact with people until they give me reasons not to) -- it's just easier to communicate with people that share my point of view.

I do enjoy discussion, though. If I had been approached by the individual with the Satanic "Bible" (if that's what it's even called), I wouldn't immediately shun him. I'm assuming there's a reason he brought up his beliefs. I'd take the opportunity to learn something and possibly inform him about my belief system.

[als463]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I'm a black man who grew up in the white suburbs, only to join a Latino frat. Needless to say, I'm drawn to many different types of people. Depending on the situation, I'll gravitate toward certain groups (ex. If 98% of the people at an event are uneducated, I'll try to seek out that 2%). That doesn't mean that I harbor any ill-will toward the others (I'm not going to walk into a room and shout "all you non-college grads raise your hands so I know not to talk to you!" I'll interact with people until they give me reasons not to) -- it's just easier to communicate with people that share my point of view.

I do enjoy discussion, though. If I had been approached by the individual with the Satanic "Bible" (if that's what it's even called), I wouldn't immediately shun him. I'm assuming there's a reason he brought up his beliefs. I'd take the opportunity to learn something and possibly inform him about my belief system.

I actually laughed out loud (thank you, I needed that) from this. That is too funny. I agree. I'm not saying you intentionally walk into a room and say, "Uneducated need not apply to be my friend." I'm just saying that you find yourself drawn to people like you.

As far as the satan bible goes, I guess I was more freaked out than anything. Part of me thinks it may be interesting to read it (just to read it), but I'm afraid I would burn in hell. No thanks, not worth it.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by als463

I actually laughed out loud (thank you, I needed that) from this. That is too funny. I agree. I'm not saying you intentionally walk into a room and say, "Uneducated need not apply to be my friend." I'm just saying that you find yourself drawn to people like you.

As far as the satan bible goes, I guess I was more freaked out than anything. Part of me thinks it may be interesting to read it (just to read it), but I'm afraid I would burn in hell. No thanks, not worth it.

I'm not sure how long you knew that guy. If you'd known him for a while and built a friendship before he revealed his beliefs, would you have stopped talking to him?

[als463]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I'm not sure how long you knew that guy. If you'd known him for a while and built a friendship before he revealed his beliefs, would you have stopped talking to him?

Hmmmm...that is a good question. I would have to say, maybe. I only knew him a little. He was in my Army tech. school with me. I didn't really know him that well. I will say that I dated a guy my Freshman year in college who I later found out was an Atheist. I tried to get over it. I just couldn't do it. He was so pissed that I broke up with him for that reason. I just couldn't date him.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by als463

Hmmmm...that is a good question. I would have to say, maybe. I only knew him a little. He was in my Army tech. school with me. I didn't really know him that well. I will say that I dated a guy my Freshman year in college who I later found out was an Atheist. I tried to get over it. I just couldn't do it. He was so pissed that I broke up with him for that reason. I just couldn't date him.

I think dating is a little different. If you're trying to build some sort of life with someone, it makes sense to have similar belief systems.

One of the perks of friendships (in my mind) is being able to interact with people with different backgrounds. If I was only interested in talking to people that were EXACTLY like me, I'd have no reason to talk to anyone else -- I could hang out with myself.

Again, as long as people realize that others may or may not share their beliefs, I don't have a problem with them.

[cheerfulgreek]

Yes, I do it. It's just that there are certain people I don't like to associate myself with. I don't feel about it, though, because everyone is biased about something or someone to some degree.

[sceniczip]

I judge people who put out professional ads with glaring misspellings. I'm not talking about small things, I'm talking about things that if you had bothered to hit the spell check button, it definitely would have caught the mistakes. I refuse to do business with people like that.

I'm pretty judgmental about grammar and spelling in general and have to fight the urge not to correct some people (like professors when they're writing on the board in class) but my grammar and spelling isn't perfect by any means so I try not to let it influence me too much.

Sorry if that wasn't as deep as religion and race and such

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by sceniczip

I judge people who put out professional ads with glaring misspellings. I'm not talking about small things, I'm talking about things that if you had bothered to hit the spell check button, it definitely would have caught the mistakes. I refuse to do business with people like that.

I'm pretty judgmental about grammar and spelling in general and have to fight the urge not to correct some people (like professors when they're writing on the board in class) but my grammar and spelling isn't perfect by any means so I try not to let it influence me too much.

Sorry if that wasn't as deep as religion and race and such

That's a good one too. I used to be a recruiter and you'd be amazed at what people will put on their resumes. You get 1-2 pages to promote yourself and you choose crap? Awesome. I also have an aunt who believes that all plural words end in apostrophe-s. Thank's, your's, cookie's, anything goes. Is it THAT hard to learn possessive and plural rules? Or basic spelling? I suppose I interpret that as either not detail-oriented or not caring.