Paying for sex - is this more common than I thought?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by SugarANDSpice

Uh, should I be happy he trusted me enough to tell me? I realize this is hard for men to do because of how we women react to their honesty. . . A part of me is very disappointed that he has it in his character to do something like this, even if it was 15 years ago. He also mentioned that it is not uncommon for men in their 20s to pay for sex as a one time thing, for exploration purposes. Is this true?

Anyway, I was just wondering what GCers thougth about this? Any personal experiences would be appreciated, but opiniions are good too.

If you say he is your "Mr. Right"--the rule generally is, don't ask questions unless your are mentally prepared for the answer... Now you may have been joking, but he honestly told you the truth. The follow up is would he pay for sex with any woman, threesome or not again? Is it the fact he had a sexually explicit kind of interaction, i.e. threesome that bothers you? Or is it the fact that he paid for it?

My question to you is can such a intimate act be purchased for money? What are your values on this concept?

What makes me have that question is in a serious relationship, often leading to marriage, it is unwise to get into, "acts" and "rewards" activities--if you do "A" or if you're nice to me, or if you lose weight, or if you do this for me; then I will do... SOMETIMES it can get into a domestically violent situation. Do you want a hint of that or do you want to push it to the limits?

What are your values? How does he honor them, then? These can't be spoken just by words--actions speak louder than words.

Men paying for sex workers is a problem globally. Those are the facts. It is the PAYING not just the act. The issue is what values. What, he can't keep his penis in his pants enough wait for sex that he appreciates?

The fact that you are posting this on a Greek Lettered Organization board under "dating and relationships" suggests that this one fact does concern you. Relevancy to GLO's??? It's all good, because many of us are health care professionals, too.