I Need Help!

JuliaNJ · #1 10-04-2009, 09:49 PM

This is 100% for real and I really don't want to or mean to offend everyone.

Like I said... I want to change everything in my life right now. And the sisterhood that goes along with being in a sorority is something I really need right now. I see the members at my school... and yes, they do have fun. But on top of it, they have all these people they can count on.

I know it's going to take a lot of work and a lot of thinking over things. But I really, really want to do this.

Someone said before I need to adjust my attitude. What do you think I should do?

Thanks.

KSUViolet06 · #2 10-04-2009, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by JuliaNJ

Someone said before I need to adjust my attitude. What do you think I should do?

Thanks.

Start by actually MEETING sorority women at your school before assuming that they all dress alike and have the same hobbies.

A small as your school is, there are probably quite a few in your classes, on staff at the paper, etc.

Once you meet and make friends with them, you can determine whether this is something you are interested in.

JuliaNJ · #3 10-04-2009, 10:01 PM

You guys are so right. I know I've been too judgmental my entire life. It's from being so self-conscious and not feeling like I fit in growing up.

I'm really going to make an effort to talk to some sorority members. There's a few on campus that I went to high school with. No one I knew really well but they know me a little bit. And I have classes with a few, too.

Honestly, going to a small college not too far from where you grew up... it has its disadvantages. It's really cliquey. And I'm just as guilty of it (and, as I can tell from here, probably more so) than anyone else.

Some of you have taken a really strict tone with me here. I really want to thank you for pointing out to me what I'm coming off like. I really don't mean any harm at all. And I know I'm going to have to change my attitude if I'm going to go through with this.

The reason why I'm on here is because I really don't know who I can talk to about this. I put "joining a sorority" in google and I clicked around until I found this forum. It's really helping me a lot.

kddani · #4 10-05-2009, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by JuliaNJ

The reason why I'm on here is because I really don't know who I can talk to about this.

A counselor of some sort, for a start. Your school should offer them. You're obviously not happy with the person that you are that you want to change so much, and you're looking to a sorority to help you fix that. I think someone with professional training is better equipped to help you sort out your feelings, ideals and goals than an internet message board.

bostongreek · #5 10-04-2009, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by JuliaNJ

Someone said before I need to adjust my attitude. What do you think I should do?

Stop trying to be a victim, for one. Your life is not a 90's college based movie and the sororities are not the stereotyped antagonists.

33girl · #6 10-05-2009, 01:05 AM

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Originally Posted by JuliaNJ

Someone said before I need to adjust my attitude. What do you think I should do?

Stop being so judgemental.

Stop thinking joining a sorority will get you out of your rut in life. If you don't like your friends and hate dating emo boys, make new friends. You don't need to be in a sorority to do that, and quite frankly I doubt at this point that one would take you.

If your college is so small that you can't get out of your social group or meet new people, transfer to Penn State & be done with it.

JuliaNJ · #7 10-05-2009, 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Stop being so judgemental.

Stop thinking joining a sorority will get you out of your rut in life. If you don't like your friends and hate dating emo boys, make new friends. You don't need to be in a sorority to do that, and quite frankly I doubt at this point that one would take you.

If your college is so small that you can't get out of your social group or meet new people, transfer to Penn State & be done with it.

The transfer thing is a no-go. I have to be fairly close to home to help out w/ some family things. Plus, aside from the stresses of my family life, I really love the school. On top of the newspaper, I've been helping out a few professors with research projects and have done some community service stuff through my dorm and the paper. I'm also on scholarship and transferring might mess that up.

But the more I think about it, the more I want to do it. I know I've been too judgmental of a person and willing to stereotype people. That's what I've come to realize I need to change the most about me. I know that if I pledge it isn't going to solve a lot (or any) of my problems but it can at least help me get to meet/become friends with people I've isolated myself from.