My Fall Recruitment Thread

Ggirl617 · #1 09-29-2009, 09:26 PM

What's wrong with me being nice and honest? Besides, i said myself that some comments were catty and shallow. I also said (and if I didn't I meant to) that I didn't want to feel this way but couldn't help it. I was telling to not only explain my story but to get out what I was feeling, as I don't feel I will move past otherwise. If my thoughts are wrong and you suggest I keep them to myself, you still think I am a horrible person for what I think. I want to move on. Sometimes your heart won't do what your head says.

How can you agree with their comments when it's not what they said? They assumed I was always "little miss pretty" and not as much in college. You echoed the opposite which is what I had already said was the case so I think we agree. Yes, I said in the first post, I thought I belonged in those because of the way I looked.

I didn't deep down identify with eyeliner. I straight up liked them. They are extremely kind and accepting girls and I loved that in sisters. Again, I already said that I needed to get past what others think. I think we agree because you are reiterating some of my points lol

Count my stars? Please. I've done nothing wrong I feel. If I am a bad person, and don't deserve eyeliner fine. I don't need things to be sugarcoated. I'm simply having thoughts I can't control that I want to vanish so I can embrace eyeliner completely. This is where I'm being completely honest.

Blue Skies · #2 09-29-2009, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Ggirl617

I didn't deep down identify with eyeliner. I straight up liked them. They are extremely kind and accepting girls and I loved that in sisters.

The more years I gain in age, the more kindness resonates with me. I really notice when people go out of their way to be kind, and I also notice when people don't (for whatever reason) make the effort. I think you noticed it as well when you were going through recruitment. I also think you made a great choice of chapters, and will be very content with your choice in the long run.

And of course, you can be both kind AND good lookin'.

tld221 · #3 09-29-2009, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Ggirl617

What's wrong with me being nice and honest? Besides, i said myself that some comments were catty and shallow. I also said (and if I didn't I meant to) that I didn't want to feel this way but couldn't help it. I was telling to not only explain my story but to get out what I was feeling, as I don't feel I will move past otherwise. If my thoughts are wrong and you suggest I keep them to myself, you still think I am a horrible person for what I think. I want to move on. Sometimes your heart won't do what your head says.

How can you agree with their comments when it's not what they said? They assumed I was always "little miss pretty" and not as much in college. You echoed the opposite which is what I had already said was the case so I think we agree. Yes, I said in the first post, I thought I belonged in those because of the way I looked.

I didn't deep down identify with eyeliner. I straight up liked them. They are extremely kind and accepting girls and I loved that in sisters. Again, I already said that I needed to get past what others think. I think we agree because you are reiterating some of my points lol

Count my stars? Please. I've done nothing wrong I feel. If I am a bad person, and don't deserve eyeliner fine. I don't need things to be sugarcoated. I'm simply having thoughts I can't control that I want to vanish so I can embrace eyeliner completely. This is where I'm being completely honest.

its possible to agree with someone and have your own opinion at the same time.

do you want me to just be OK with your comments because you've keep mentioning you know how wrong/shallow/catty, etc they sound?

its like starting off a statement with "i know this is going to sound really racist but..." should one not be offended because they were warned?

meh, i really had no intentions of disagreeing this much with you. im actually interested in your story, especially since its the time of year where all the junior transfers who wonder if theyre making the right decision during rush are coming around.

seriously, i want you to finish the story, im interested. would i stick around a comment if i thought you were a bad person and such?

Ggirl617 · #4 09-29-2009, 10:16 PM

i just want to be able to move past what i'm feeling, and i feel as if i reveal my chapter and school now it will be dragged down with the story. i want to get to a place of satisfaction and be all "i'm an EYELINER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

KSUViolet06 · #5 09-29-2009, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Ggirl617

i just want to be able to move past what i'm feeling, and i feel as if i reveal my chapter and school now it will be dragged down with the story. i want to get to a place of satisfaction and be all "i'm an EYELINER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Do whatever you feel comfortable with.

AXOrushadvisor · #6 09-29-2009, 11:22 PM

Ggirl-

I think you are in a good place. You seem to me to be open minded and willing to make a difference. Good for you! Enjoy your new membership experience get to know your fellow PNM's AND active sisters- try to keep your new member class together. You may be the start of a strong Chapter on campus. Run for an office in your new member class and make a difference. You will reap many rewards in the end. Good luck to you and keep us posted.

PS..I really hope you stick it out. This could be the beginning of a wonderful trip for you.

Zillini · #7 09-30-2009, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Ggirl617

i just want to be able to move past what i'm feeling, and i feel as if i reveal my chapter and school now it will be dragged down with the story. i want to get to a place of satisfaction and be all "i'm an EYELINER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

You can get to that place, but it may take time and a concerted effort on your part. You've only been a new member for what not, a few days?

I remember one of my pledge sisters telling me she didn't find the warm fuzzies until she moved into the chapter house and that was a whole year after she pledged. She confessed that until then she had simply viewed it as another club or activity that she'd committed to. But once she was immersed in sisterhood 24/7 it was like a light bulb had been turned on.

Point being, you are not the only sorority girl who has ever questioned her choice and has had doubts. Just remember everybody is different. Some girls are consumed by the bonds of sisterhood immediately on Bid Day. For others Initiation is a big turning point. Then others, like my pledge sister, take even longer. The common denominator though is always that key moment when a girl truly commits herself, then she can find meaningful sisterhood because that's when she actually became a sister and not someone who sits on the sidelines dwelling on the would of, could of, should of's.

thetygerlily · #8 09-29-2009, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Ggirl617

i just want to be able to move past what i'm feeling, and i feel as if i reveal my chapter and school now it will be dragged down with the story. i want to get to a place of satisfaction and be all "i'm an EYELINER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Then let's move on and focus on what you're doing. What have you been doing so far with the actives and your new member class? Any all-Greek events planned? Made any great new friends who will help you get through the last two years of college? Give us THESE juicy details and then maybe you can shout from the rooftops if you're comfortable.

I agree with some of the previous sentiments and I was initially put off by some of the self-professed shallow comments. But GC is all about differing opinions and different experiences. Let's here more of yours now that the eyeliners have welcomed you with open arms.