My Fall Recruitment Thread

[Ggirl617]

I thought I made it pretty clear that I do want to stay in eyeliner and make the best of it, and I feel bad about the way I feel, but unlike others can't just erase the thoughts immediately. I understand that you will grow to love some sororities and instantly love others. Nothing I have posted in this thread differs from that. I think you misunderstand my feelings. I don't feel as if I'm being defensive, but you've suggested two options that I never wanted to do, and that's these two:

*Drop out of eyeliner.

*Stay in Eyeliner and be pissed everyday about it.

I am making the effort and I am going to work through this. That doesn't change the emotions I'm experiencing right now. People say there's a cookie cutter sorority, but I think pnms are stereotyped this way too.

Edit: I don't think you were being nice by saying you're not going to touch my comments. You obviously are looking down on the way I feel and that's not nice. I'm sorry I'm being honest.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

I am making the effort and I am going to work through this. That doesn't change the emotions I'm experiencing right now. People say there's a cookie cutter sorority, but I think pnms are stereotyped this way too.
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Your feelings ARE normal.

You are probably not going to instantly feel at home with ANY chapter (even girls who get their top choice from day 1 don't feel that way).

I don't think anyone is saying that it is wrong to feel the way you feel, especially at this stage in the game.

Nothing is automatic and it all takes time.

Some advice: get involved and meet other sisters.

If you keep your positive attitude about Eyeliner, and get genuinely involved, your feelings likely will change.

[FSUZeta]

you may be having a bit of "buyers remorse"-i do all the time! who knows-you might be questioning your decision had you chosen blush instead.

i think that it is very few new members who instantly truly feel at home and have no period of adjustment. heck, if your roommate is a stranger, there is a period of adjustment with her, and there certainly is a period of adjustment in a marriage.

the best way to feel comfortable with your new sisters and the girls in your pledge class, is to participate in every event possible with your chapter. join a committee within the chapter that interests you. walk home from your new member meetings with your pledge sisters. set a goal to learn something about a different sister every day.

[Ggirl617]

I think I just need some time. I want to go in the right direction

[Ggirl617]

p.s. i am in the midst of about 100 new friend requests and am definitely feeling the love